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Psychiatric treatment for shy child - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   how can i help you
User :   Hi Doctor
Doctor :   good morning
User :   This is with regard to my 4 year old daughter, her behaviour. Basically I would like consultation on child psychiatry
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   I am a General Practitioner, I believe I can help you within my expertise and If required I shall recommend a specialist.
User :   ok no problem doctor
Doctor :   please go ahead with ur medical query
User :   four years for my daughter has been very painful as her father was resistant to live with us. He belongs to Chennai and I belong to Bangalore. They were reluctant to accept my daughter as she was a girl child. So she has seen all what has happened around her, like me crying over the issue, going for a job leaving her with my parents and so many things like that...
Doctor :   ok
User :   Now since Feb 2008, my husband has realised that more than his parents he needs us for his future and so has decided to live with us and he has shifted to Bangalore. For some time, he did not talk to my parents and would taunt me for all the past issues and even he did not allow his parents to talk to me...
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please provide your details -Age: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Weight and Height: Dependents: Yes/ No
Doctor :   ok
User :   ok
User :   I am 31 years old, Senior Software Engg by profession, Weight : 54 kgs, Height : 5.4, Dependants : 3 (parents and daughter)
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   so what would u like to know about now
User :   Off late my husband broke his finger and realised that he needs my help and affection, so we compromised for the past and are living happily. My daughter lives with my parents during weekdays as she has school and our schedule is very awkward. But she mingles with us very nicely. But we have noticed that she does not talk to anybody whom we introduce
Doctor :   is she shy kind of child
Doctor :   children normally take some time
Doctor :   to mingle with strangers
Doctor :   thats a normal response
User :   yes she is...but at school she is very normal.
Doctor :   most children will be like that
Doctor :   may she is taking time to adjust to new place
Doctor :   along ur husband and yourself
Doctor :   dont push too much
Doctor :   try to be caring both of you
Doctor :   it is very important
Doctor :   win her heart
User :   Especially to my in-laws, she does not talk. When I spoke to her, she said my grand parents hate me so I hate them. That situation when she was a child has affected a lot.
Doctor :   take her for outing, regularly,get here the things she likes like choclates and toys
Doctor :   dont worry about this problem
Doctor :   it will get resolved as she grows up
User :   Yes we do all that...but we don't have a problem. Its embarassing when people expect her to speak to them and she doesn't.
Doctor :   also ur inlaws need to loving and caring to her
Doctor :   dont force her to anything
Doctor :   which she doesnt like
Doctor :   slowly will she will open up
User :   Now they are trying but she literally closes her ears and responds in a way that its insulting them.
Doctor :   dont worry
Doctor :   she will be ok , she will take sometime
Doctor :   before she will accept them as well
Doctor :   they need to patient
User :   ok
Doctor :   ur inlaws should treat with care and respect
Doctor :   r u able to follow
Doctor :   when dealing with children one needs lot of patience
Doctor :   the kid is normal and any kid in her position will same
User :   ok
Doctor :   it will take a while before she will be normal
Doctor :   and she will slowly but surely start to like them as well
User :   oh ok..
Doctor :   as she grows up
Doctor :   and start to going to school
Doctor :   she will forgot these things
Doctor :   and she will be a normal child
User :   yes she is already in her L.K.G doctor
Doctor :   if u do need a child counselor
Doctor :   good
Doctor :   u can notice the change
Doctor :   in a few months time
Doctor :   i would suggest u people to be patient for awhile and not to discipline her
User :   But still if you can suggest a child counselor, it will be good.
Doctor :   where are u located
Doctor :   when would u like to have appointment
User :   Not this weekend, Next weekend is fine.
Doctor :   You can use the search a doctor/hospital feature on our homepage to find a counselor in your area. If you wish, we can fix up your appointment with a doctor in your area.
Doctor :   if u have problem finding the counselor
Doctor :   u can let me
Doctor :   we will fix appointment for u
Doctor :   confirm details
Doctor :   please
User :   I will first find a doctor myself otherwise I will contact you doctor
Doctor :   sure
Doctor :   u can email us
Doctor :   or contact us
User :   ok...thanks a lot for your time doctor
Doctor :   ur welcome
Doctor :   be gentle with the kid
Doctor :   give her love
Doctor :   she will love u guys the twice the amount of love and affection u show
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting Health care magic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service
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