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Psychiatric consultation on inability to concentrate - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   hi
Doctor :   hI
User :   xxx here
Doctor :   Dr xxx here
Doctor :   how can i help u?
User :   doctor
User :   i have a psycheatric query
User :   can u healp me with that?
Doctor :   YES
Doctor :   please proceed with your query
User :   i have not been able to
User :   conc on somethings
User :   from few weeks
User :   i have a friend, who is a girl .. from 5 yeas
User :   years
Doctor :   what do u mean by not able to concentrate
User :   recently i have had feelings for her
User :   yes doc
Doctor :   please elaborate
User :   but she recently had a bf
User :   from past few weeks
User :   and wanted to marrry that guy
Doctor :   ok
User :   i neva told her abt my feelings
Doctor :   ok
User :   since i feel that it ll ruin our frnship
Doctor :   may i know your age ?
User :   24
Doctor :   ok
User :   i have to study for some competitions
Doctor :   have you been in a relationship before
User :   apart from work
User :   no doctor
User :   she is the only girl i have been so close to
User :   on studies i have not been able to concentrate
User :   its very imp for me but
User :   i dont no hw to manage this emotional thing
Doctor :   does she have similar feelings for you ? or has she been really friendly with you?
User :   before she had.. long back .. ig uess 1.5 yrs bak
Doctor :   I would advice you to talk to her directly
User :   but i neva responded similarly that time
Doctor :   But before get to know, if she is in love with the other guy
Doctor :   and has had relations with him
User :   she is not sure ... she has already proposed him for marriage ...
Doctor :   so now, get to know what is going on
User :   but things have not worked out much, final decision is pending
Doctor :   if there is no response or they are still in ambiguity , ... make your move
User :   ok
Doctor :   just take her to a hotel or club etc, give her lots of flowers (red roses to be specifically) , and if possibly give her a diamond ring
Doctor :   specifically and propose to her
Doctor :   let her know, you were a idiot for not responding earlier
User :   yea
Doctor :   and did not realise about your feelings earlier
User :   i am not vey confident doing this doc .. somehow ..
Doctor :   if she responds, positively
Doctor :   then you can start your life together
Doctor :   If not - realise - that she is not the one for you
User :   ok
Doctor :   and probably, there is some one better for u
User :   i donno how to move on doctor..
User :   i want your suggestion... whats the best way to forget these thing
Doctor :   u need to realise, that life does not always give you what you want
User :   yup
Doctor :   you may get lucky in some things
Doctor :   but you need to look on the brighter side and take the good things
User :   true
Doctor :   as i have said earlier... propose in a good restaurant , with iceream and cake , then bring on the red flowers (50-100) , then get the ring
User :   i get thoughts while studying, since she is a good friend i ll have to keep in touch too..
Doctor :   also mention to her that u value your friendship and you want her to continue to be a friend irrespective of her decision
Doctor :   if she says no, then break into a laughter
Doctor :   and then say all this was a joke
Doctor :   as you just wanted to cheer you up
User :   :)
Doctor :   so in this way, you can get closer with her again, inspite of her saying no
Doctor :   and probably, you may get a chance later on, to woo her again, just in case
User :   u r right .
Doctor :   in both ways, u will be closer to her
User :   ok doc
User :   i ll try all this
Doctor :   I hope i have solved your issues
User :   u are right , thnks
User :   but i need to implement and see.. things will take sometime
User :   she is in xxx
Doctor :   please remember to give your feedback as you log out
Doctor :   ok
User :   and coming to bangalore after 2 months
Doctor :   i think u will have time to arrange everything
User :   yeah
Doctor :   thats a long time
User :   yea
Doctor :   where are u now? in bangalore ?
User :   yes
Doctor :   ok
User :   hope things work out well.. and i ll be able to conc
Doctor :   i hope everything works out for you
User :   hope things are happening for some good
Doctor :   definitely
User :   thanks doc.. i ll be bak ..
Doctor :   bye for now
User :   if i need to speak to you
Doctor :   and good luck
User :   bye
User :   thanks alot
Doctor :   you are welcome
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