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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   Hi, may I answer your health queries
User :   hello
Doctor :   Hi
User :   i need some help
Doctor :   please proceed with your query
User :   im not satisfied ?
Doctor :   regarding what ?
User :   im married
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   in what sense are you not satisfied in your married life ?
User :   yes
Doctor :   tell me your problem in detail so that i can help you
User :   how to say...
Doctor :   go ahead you can share it with me
User :   not satisfied in bed
User :   i feel shy..
Doctor :   its ok
Doctor :   you can discuss your problems then only we can find a solution
User :   ok
User :   not happpy in bed
Doctor :   and what is the reason for it ?
Doctor :   id your husband not able to perform ?
User :   yes
Doctor :   does he not get a erection ? or does he comes very fast ?
User :   comes very fast
User :   he is depression patient
Doctor :   ok no problem i have few things to tell you about that will help you
User :   he feels fear when not with his one friend with every other he is scared
Doctor :   there are few techniques you can tell your husband to do that will delay his ejaculation
User :   ?
User :   ?
Doctor :   to begin with
User :   ?
Doctor :   1) Self Distraction to prevent premature ejaculation
If your husband arousal levels are getting too high and a climax is beginning, tell him to take a deep breath and think about something else, something very boring if possible. When he is less aroused but maintaining an erection he can then continue.
Doctor :   2) Stop and Start Method for premature ejaculation
If he finds himself nearing climax withdraw his penis from you and allow himself to relax enough to prevent ejaculation. By starting and stopping sexual stimulation he can learn to prolong the sex act.
Doctor :   3) Squeeze Methods can help prevent premature ejaculation
This method involves either the man or his partner squeezing (fairly firmly) the end or the tip of the penis for 10 to 20 seconds when ejaculation is imminent, withholding stimulation for about 30 seconds, then continuing stimulation. This can be repeated until ejaculation is desired. The stop and start method can be used with the squeeze method as well.
Doctor :   4) Desensitizing Creams for premature ejaculation
Creams can be used to desensitize the end of the penis. They act like a local or tropical anesthetic. Thicker condoms can also desensitize by decreasing sensitivity and therefore stimulation, thus prolonging the sexual act.
User :   he is depression patient he doesnt understand when he comes closer his friend is also around
Doctor :   i see
User :   ??
Doctor :   i think you and i had a talk before too
Doctor :   i remember
User :   may be
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   well i did had suggested that he needs to see a psychiatrist
User :   i tried but failed
Doctor :   as he is afraid from everyone and only with his friend he is ok
User :   even tried not be close to him
User :   yes
Doctor :   ok
User :   they bith together 24 hrs.
Doctor :   so now again is his friend there ?
Doctor :   i know and even his friend wanted to get close to you
User :   ???
Doctor :   i can understand your problem
Doctor :   so what did he said about talking to a psychiatrist ?
User :   he dont go there
User :   his friend yes also ..
Doctor :   if you want i can set up a call from a psychiatrist to you
Doctor :   for expert opinion
Doctor :   we have that option too
User :   i cant he is around
User :   his friend aswell out in lounge
Doctor :   i see
Doctor :   where you you located ?
Doctor :   are
User :   pakistan
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   can you talk to his friend and tell him to just leave ?
Doctor :   for few hours
Doctor :   so that you can talk to your husband in private
User :   he also .......... how will he admit this
Doctor :   tell him to make up an excuse
User :   my husband will go wih him i know........secondly how a man can do this .....his friend also i told you..........
Doctor :   yes i remember everything you have told me
Doctor :   we had a very detail conversation
User :   he succeeded
User :   i told you or not
Doctor :   yes you had told me
Doctor :   about his friend too
Doctor :   and i had mentioned that it was not right
User :   yes but as he saw me many times and dont know how but i lost myself one day
Doctor :   your husband needs serious consulting
Doctor :   i completely understand your situation
Doctor :   dont blame your self
User :   is it right in seeing him?
Doctor :   no its not right
User :   but he doo
Doctor :   you have to say no to it
Doctor :   you have to take a stand
Doctor :   do it and later he will realize
User :   we did manytimes now
Doctor :   now you have to put a stop on this
User :   he will not if he wanted he wouldnt have man in his age leaves young girl if have chance
Doctor :   you need to be strong
User :   imnot
Doctor :   dont underestimate your will power . have faith in your delf
User :   as i get satisfaction from him the way he treats and ..... !!
Doctor :   take a break
User :   though he is of my husbands age
Doctor :   and let him come to you
Doctor :   dont do it for some time
User :   we have plan for tommorow
Doctor :   just go out or make a n excuse
User :   he wants to impose some posiotion
Doctor :   you have to stand up and say no
Doctor :   do they do it together ?
User :   i cant i dont want but when have chance i cant dont know why
User :   no
Doctor :   you have to built the courage
User :   when my husband is doing he is just around but my husb cann not hold for more than a minute
Doctor :   just once you should resist it
User :   and he do it in diff positions ...
Doctor :   say no tomorrow and then you tell me the reaction
User :   i hope i can but hard for me
Doctor :   i will guide you
Doctor :   trust me you can
Doctor :   you just need to be firm
User :   as he did very nice position and we have plan for it tommorow i admited
Doctor :   dont encourage it, just tomorrow
User :   i also need it
Doctor :   i can understand your situation, but just for tomorrow say no and then you can tell me what was the reaction
User :   i know he wont stop
Doctor :   you should try
User :   i hope there is no harm in different positions for me
User :   ??
Doctor :   no there in no harm
User :   can i enjoy in that way
Doctor :   if you are comfortable with it
Doctor :   then you can
Doctor :   physical needs are important
User :   not tried before just heard
Doctor :   you just have to see you are not affected by it emotionally
User :   do people in normal life do in that way
Doctor :   you mean what you husband with your friend ?
User :   no the different positions
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   there are many positions people try
User :   which one is the best for me
Doctor :   depends on what you like
Doctor :   and which makes you most comfortable and which you enjoy
User :   which one more enjoyable ?
Doctor :   it depends on the women
User :   ?
Doctor :   after trying only you can tell
Doctor :   which you enjoyed the most
User :   women body type or else depends ?
User :   i did only wo positions
Doctor :   no it just what you like your body type has nothing to do with it
User :   two
Doctor :   you can always try more
Doctor :   there is no harm
User :   sure
Doctor :   be positive
User :   should i try that in movies
User :   ?
Doctor :   yes you can
User :   from back
Doctor :   yes you can with proper lubrication
Doctor :   and you can always tell you stop if you dont like it
User :   no not in back ......the style im saying
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   you can
Doctor :   no harm
User :   dont know the name
Doctor :   i understood
User :   hi
Doctor :   hello
User :   you got the way i was saying
Doctor :   yes i understood
Doctor :   what you mean
Doctor :   and yes you can try it there is no harm in it
User :   what it is called ?
Doctor :   i dont think it will be appropriate to use the word is this chat but i completely understood
User :   i just wanted to know the name if possible
User :   of different ways !!
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   its called doggie style
User :   why doggie?
Doctor :   because thats how the position is done
User :   o i c
User :   does it feel good
Doctor :   you have to experience it to say so, like i said if you are enjoying it you can carry on BUT if you feel any problem you can always stop

Doctor :   its a very common position
User :   he is saying for it for tommorow alot
Doctor :   ok
User :   what else i can do ?
Doctor :   you can see certain sites regarding kamasutra, which will give you all the insight
User :   any add
User :   are you married ?
Doctor :   No i am not
User :   how old ?
Doctor :   32
User :   older than meee
Doctor :   i guess so
User :   younger then my husb
Doctor :   ok
User :   im 26
Doctor :   ok
User :   is this you always on duty here
Doctor :   yes these are my timings
User :   you are located at?
Doctor :   Bangalore India
User :   oh
User :   is it same like our land
Doctor :   yes it sure is
Doctor :   only man made divisions , rest all is the same
User :   yes
User :   do you have anytips so i can reduce a bit weight
Doctor :   there is nothing wrong in experimenting in various sexual positions
Doctor :   sure i can tell you
Doctor :   may i know your height and your weight please
User :   im 5.3
User :   62 kg
Doctor :   and you are 26
User :   yes
User :   1984
Doctor :   as per your BODY MASS INDEX you fall under normal weight category . all you need is slight toning that can be easily achieved with exercise and some diet control
Doctor :   you should do cardio exersice
User :   i m getting busty
Doctor :   and light weights
Doctor :   to tone up
User :   not my stomach
User :   specially thighs
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   well you can try some squats exercise
User :   ??
Doctor :   by bending doing situps
User :   how
Doctor :   like you do sit ups put your hand against the wall and bend your knees and do a regular sit up
Doctor :   making sure the pressure is on your thighs
User :   did not understand
User :   leave it .....
Doctor :   Stand with feet hip distance apart with your toes, knees and hips in a straight line.
Doctor :   Pull your belly button towards your spine and contract your abdominal muscles.
Doctor :   Slowly lower your body, as though you are sitting in a chair.
Doctor :   If you can, go down until your butt is in line with your knees (knees at 90 degree angles). If you can't go down that low, go as low as you can.
Doctor :   Take a moment and look down make sure your knees are BEHIND your toes.
Doctor :   Keeping the weight in your heels, slowly push your body back to starting position.
Doctor :   At the top of the movement, do NOT lock your knees. Keep a slight bend in them.
Doctor :   Repeat the movement 10 to 15 times, performing 1 to 3 sets. For each repetion, count to 3 on the way up and on the way down to ensure you're not going too fast.
Doctor :   Rest 30 to 60 seconds in between sets.
Doctor :   thats how its done
User :   ill try it but ican not sit with this much big butt i know but ill try
Doctor :   dont worry you will do just fine
User :   there is nothing wrong in experimenting in various sexual positions ?
Doctor :   like i said the book kamasutra will guide you
User :   wat you think the best is?
Doctor :   like i said it depends on the partners doing it
Doctor :   some like something some enjoy other
User :   earlier you said well lubricated.................... ???????
User :   can you explain some like something some othere .....??
Doctor :   yes for any sexual intercourse proper lubrication is must for a pleasurable and painless sexual act
User :   i did it always without lubricating !!!!!
Doctor :   it can be by your natural lubrication if you are well aroused
User :   yes
User :   when he lifted i was well aroused
Doctor :   ok
User :   oh noo
Doctor :   what happened ?
User :   my husband i going to sleep
Doctor :   well you can always come back again
User :   no its like we are alone at home
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   maybe then you can talk to him
User :   to ???
Doctor :   you said you are alone with him

User :   his friend is here thats why i said oh no
Doctor :   oh ok
User :   my mother in law and father in law not here
Doctor :   okj
Doctor :   ok
User :   so he will fuck me after my husb will sleep i knoe as none else at home !!!!!
Doctor :   i see
User :   sorry to use such word
Doctor :   its alright
User :   but he will fulfil his doggie desire today...................
Doctor :   ok
User :   as last time we failed
User :   shld i do it in doggie ??
Doctor :   if you want to you can try
Doctor :   like i said there is nothing wrong in trying
User :   for this what i have to do?
User :   ?
Doctor :   you can kneel on all four
Doctor :   and the person penetrates from behind
User :   anal ....??
Doctor :   no you can do vaginal penetration too
Doctor :   by raising your hips a little
User :   how?
User :   they are very heavy !
Doctor :   you can try
Doctor :   like i said its all about how comfortable you are
User :   wat abt male ?
Doctor :   he is on his knees
Doctor :   behind the partner
User :   he is comfortable ?
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   its comfortable for both
User :   why is he forcing me for it
User :   ???
Doctor :   i cannot sat anything on that
User :   okk have to go as he is calling me now in lounge
User :   till wat time you are here
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   take care of your self
User :   ?
User :   ?
Doctor :   tell me
Doctor :   do you have any more questions ?
User :   no now time to fuck him
User :   lets see how it feels
Doctor :   ok
User :   you here after an hour
Doctor :   no i would be off
Doctor :   you can always ask for me, i am Dr Oberoi
User :   okk
User :   oberoi thanks
Doctor :   your welcome
User :   let me finish this first
Doctor :   ok
User :   then will be back
User :   pay that i enjoy it )
Doctor :   sure you will
User :   pray
Doctor :   good night
Doctor :   and take care
User :   same to you
Doctor :   thank you
User :   say good fuck lols
Doctor :   bye bye
User :   not night
User :   t c
Doctor :   you too
User :   byeee
Doctor :   bye
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