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Performance anxiety during intercourse - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
User :   Hi
Doctor :  
How can i help you?
User :   Its related to sexual unstability
User :   r u the right doctor ?
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Proceed with your Q
User :   okie
User :   For the very first 2-3 attempts to penetrate during inetrcourse , My erection went down after putting on condom and while trying to tpenetrate
Doctor :   Ok

User :   otherwise , If i dont try to penetrate , Erection remain very good
Doctor :  
ok
User :   after 2-3 times , I started putting condom at an earlier stage
User :   and I find the erection fine to penetrate
Doctor :   Ok

User :   First thing , I am cumming earlier than required
User :   female not able to reach orgasm
Doctor :   ok

User :   second , after ist penetration if I take my dick out and try again .. I find myself in a low confidence state to maintain the erestion
User :   so ,i try to finish all in ist penetration only
Doctor :  
ok
User :   how to deal with this
User :   in normal situations , I am sexually very active , masterbate once in a day
Doctor :  
ok
User :   just this penetration is bit problematic .. i suppose
User :   now ur turn .. :)
Doctor :   i will help you in this

Doctor :  
i need some more details
User :   ok ..pls ask
Doctor :   can you provide me your age

User :   I can maintain srection throughout the day if I dont try to penetrate :)
User :   26
Doctor :   ok

User :   ?
Doctor :   when did you first attempt the sexual intercourse
User :   2 months back
User :   first two attempts were failed.. I found myself in shocked situation
User :   that what happened to this ..
User :   its not getting up
Doctor :   with whom did you attempt this sex intercourse
User :   my Girl friend.. 23 in age
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
you are suffering from performance anxiety
User :   is it a diseases ?
Doctor :   it is not a disease per say
User :   ok
Doctor :  
it is your anxiety
User :   ya .. first two failures have made me bit concious and low in confidence
User :   also , sometimes in the morning , I perform very well as well
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :  
see as you can maintain very well the erection
User :   ok
Doctor :   there is no disease
User :   ok
Doctor :  
of organic cause
Doctor :  
and no medicine as such is helpful
User :   ok
Doctor :  
it is the art of performance which is required
User :   Does it happen generally ?
User :   or I am an exceptional case .. :)
Doctor :   it is more common
User :   okie
Doctor :  
people who go for honeymoon will land up with doctor with premature leak of not able to penenterate
Doctor :  
this is very very common
User :   sometimes , If I start fingering for longer , I feel myself that I shud penetrate soon otherwise , dick will get down ..
User :   so I hurry also
Doctor :   sex is also having stages
User :   ok
Doctor :  
the initial stage is excitement
User :   ya
Doctor :   where you think and there is a response of organ in the form of starting to erection
Doctor :  
then the desire will grow in the intensity, where there is fore play will help to maintain the erection
Doctor :  
than the stage is achieved where you indulge in penenterative sex
Doctor :  
and then the release of tension
User :   okie
Doctor :  
in the form of ejucalation
User :   true
Doctor :   your problem is you want to over impress the female and show you are very powerful man
Doctor :  
this is letting you down
Doctor :  
actually you are a powerful man
User :   :)
Doctor :  
and you need to show that power in the right time in the right way
User :   ok
Doctor :   i will give you some tips
User :   ok
Doctor :  
when ever you are having the sex think of your satisfaction first
Doctor :  
you perform for your sake
Doctor :  
dont think of satisfiying your partner
User :   ok
Doctor :  
at the end you will notice that both of you have satisfied
Doctor :  
aproach your partner with confidence
User :   should I control ejaculation ?
Doctor :   need not
User :   and I fear condom burst also
User :   so I dont ejaculate inside..
User :   whenever , I feel the time to ejaculae , i drag it out and then ejaculate
Doctor :   you have lot of fear
Doctor :  
than how will you perform
Doctor :  
remove the fear
Doctor :  
condom is made of good Quality latex
User :   once this condom burst has happened to me
User :   then we relied on Ipill
User :   after that , this fear is inside
Doctor :   did you use oil for lubrication?
User :   lubrication of dick ?
Doctor :   yes
User :   no I dont
User :   should I ?
Doctor :  
during intercourse do you use lubricant over the condom
User :   condom is already lubricated
Doctor :   yes

User :   so I use it as it is
Doctor :  
why i am asking is
User :   no other lubrication
Doctor :  
condom will burst if oil is used
User :   is it
Doctor :  
oil based lubricant should not be used with condoms
User :   ok..
User :   while taking bath , I usually apply mustard oil on genetals
User :   not before intercourse
Doctor :   ok

Doctor :  
that is not a problem
User :   that shud be fine ..rite?
User :   okie
Doctor :  
you got to know what is your problem right?
User :   any other tip ?
User :   ya .. I think that ways .. I would come very soon insde her and she wont reach her orgasm
Doctor :   ok

Doctor :   you be relaxed
User :   k
Doctor :  
do it as if you are doing for more than ages
Doctor :  
think of yourself only
Doctor :  
your satisfaction
User :   ok
Doctor :  
initially dont measure your performance at all
User :   ok
Doctor :   make her do what you want
Doctor :  
this is in gentel manner not by force
User :   getting ..
User :   also .. her touches on my dick 's initial part , taking over fore skin .. make me feel uncomfortable
User :   getting it ?
Doctor :   i got it
User :   dont remember whats that called.. the naked part below fore skin
Doctor :   its called glans penis
User :   ok
User :   does that happen
User :   ?
Doctor :  
it is the most sensitive part of male organ
Doctor :  
touch there should be pleasurable
User :   ya .. But I dont feel sesations or pleasure
User :   but somewhat painful sesations
Doctor :   ok

User :   so I try to cover it as long as possible
Doctor :  
do you get pre come?
User :   During masterbation also , I try to masterbate covering it only
User :   whats that ?
Doctor :   are you able to retract the foreskin back completely

Doctor :  
and than pull it back
User :   ya .. but not very comfortably ..
User :   also , it gets back while penetration ..
Doctor :  
it should get back while penenteration
User :   it pains bit ..
User :   but then sesations cover it
Doctor :  
is it too tight to pull it back
User :   during masterbation also , I can drag it back .. but I dont enjoy masterbating that way ..neither touuching that part
User :   not too tight .. but not too soft too
User :   its normal
User :   but uncomfortable
Doctor :  
ok
User :   always try to cover it
Doctor :  
no
Doctor :  
dont do it
Doctor :  
you need to practise by pulling it back
Doctor :   there is one cream
User :   I try but dont enjoy
Doctor :  
called prilox gel
User :   ok
Doctor :   apply this gel to the glans penis
User :   okie
Doctor :  
and than perform the sex
User :   everyday ?
Doctor :   during the sex not every day
User :   okie
User :   during masterbation ?
User :   any side effects ..
User :   ?
Doctor :   you can use that time also
Doctor :  
no side effects
User :   Because if she ll do suking , that cream wud go in her mouth ..
User :   wud that be ok ?
Doctor :  
you need to put it on the glans
User :   yeah .. I understand ..
Doctor :   not while doing oral sex
User :   but during dick sucking .. that can go in her mouth na .. ?
User :   or u mean ..before penetration ?
Doctor :   yes

User :   ok .. so before penetration only .. right ?
Doctor :   before applying condom you can apply that
User :   ok .. ya .. that wud ne right
User :   what positive wud I get out of that ?
Doctor :  
that will relieve the uncomfortable sensation
Doctor :  
it will also delay the elaculation time
Doctor :  
so that you can do sex for long time
User :   that will be gr8 .. if it works
Doctor :   it will work
User :   ok ..
User :   but what about unpleasant sesations during her touched on glans
Doctor :   it will disappear over a period of time
User :   okie
Doctor :   it might take some 3 or 4 months
User :   okie..
User :   so nobody is born sex expert .. practise makes him perfect :)
Doctor :   yes it is
Doctor :  
it is a art
User :   ok
Doctor :  
learnt over a period of time
User :   ok
User :   any quicker way to learn it ?
User :   :)
Doctor :   to practise it more frequently
User :   ok
Doctor :   the more you do more experience you will get
User :   ok..
Doctor :  
every act is a learning step to you as well as your parter
Doctor :  
both need to discuss this
User :   ok .. i dont discuss this wid her .. i ll do
Doctor :  
dont feel shy or inferior complex to discuss with her
User :   ok
Doctor :  
by discussing you are helping each other
User :   ok
Doctor :  
and learning the art very fast
Doctor :  
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User :   I did.
Doctor :   thank you
User :   Thanks for your valuable sugestions ..
User :   I ll implement all
Doctor :  
is there anything else i can help you with
User :   May I know the name , place and your qualifications .. to just visualise the person I talked with
Doctor :   Dr shekar, we are located in bangalore. and i am a general practisoner

User :   ok..
User :   If i need to talk regarding the same next time , I would prefer to talk to you only
User :   How can i acheive that ?
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Doctor :  
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User :   okie
Doctor :  
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Doctor :   there are other doctors also

Doctor :  
you ask for mu name
User :   ok
Doctor :  
they will transfer the chat to me
User :   ok
User :   r u permanent employee of healthcaremagic
Doctor :  
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Doctor :  
yes i am permanent employee
User :   oh ..gr8
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User :   Doctors team with healthcaremagic..
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Doctor :  
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User :   I mean .. is that the branch of a partcular hospital ?
User :   ok
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Doctor :  
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User :   please let me know the number as well the details
Doctor :   all round the clock

User :   from which service .. tried through vodafone ... it says wrong number
Doctor :  
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User :   any number which I can dial from my mobile
Doctor :  
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User :   ya ..just saw
Doctor :  
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User :   got it
Doctor :  
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User :   great ..
User :   thanks for your time ..
Doctor :  
thank you
User :   it was pleasure talking to you
User :   bbye
Doctor :  
i hope you will follow the steps and
Doctor :  
learn soon
User :   ya
User :   thanks
Doctor :  
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Doctor :  
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