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Penis not getting erected while intercourse. Reason? What do i need to do? - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 01-Mar-2013
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Practicing since : 2002
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Doctor:Hello. Good afternoon
User:Hi Doc.
Doctor:Is this XXXXX?
User:Very Good afternoon to you
User:Yes, Doc.
User:Hope you;re doing well.
Doctor:Please proceed with your query
User:Dr. XXXXXXX, my query is more about my personal problem. I have been married for more than a year now. No kids..
User:However, our (with my wife) has been for more than 5 years.
User:we have very good relationship.
Doctor:I understand
User:But since our marriage, our sexual is not healthy
User:we never had successful intercourse since or every in our realtionship
User:my wife is very concerned about this
Doctor:But why? Is there any reason?
User:I have tried to intercourse, but never successful.
Doctor:Do you have normal erections?
User:either am not interested or when i try to intercourse my pennis is not hard to get intercourse. pennis loses the hardess when i intercourse
User:erections happens only when with masturbate
Doctor:Please do not mind to answer my few more personal queries
User:please go ahead , am happy to answer them
Doctor:Do you masturbate normally?
Doctor:How long are you married?
Doctor:May I know your age?
Doctor:Are you in a forced marriage?
User:it has been 1.5 year
User:its our love cum arrange.
User:i really care for her and love her
User:but never able to express sexually or physically .
Doctor:I understand
User:am 28 year old
Doctor:Is she also feeling the same way?
User:masturbate works for me always
User:she is very our sexual or passionate about about her
User:I used to feel her or feel sexual towards her prior to our marriage.
Doctor:You should try and get this sexual feeling towards her
User:but since then i have lost.
User:am not sure how to start off.
User:what way i should think to get myself back as i was before marriage .
Doctor:do you have sexual feelings toward women in general?
User:yes. am very excited about sex, girls, in general.
Doctor:The solution is very simple
User:never been able to deliver in intercourse.
Doctor:You just need to practice them
User:i will be happy to know and practice them , i just need to know what needs to be done
Doctor:You have to first express your love towards your wife
Doctor:You may start gifting her few things
Doctor:Take her out, give her flowers, talk to her more
User:we do talk, should we talk more about sex?
Doctor:Yes, it helps
Doctor:Good foreplay is important
Doctor:Even though if you both do not have intercourse, do foreplay every other day
Doctor:Just to keep your sexual life active
User:what to do more to make intercourse happens?
Doctor:Good penetration is important
Doctor:Try to insert and be inside her vagina for sometime
User:it just losses hardness.
Doctor:I understand
Doctor:You need to continue your mental stimulation
Doctor:Do not get defocussed
User:I agree with you.
Doctor:Also, remove any stress
Doctor:Please think only about her and think about satisfying her and also you should get satisfied
Doctor:If you think that you want to be satisfied then you will satisfy her and you will be satisfied too
Doctor:Are you following me? If not please ask me again, I shall explain
User:Yes, am following you.
Doctor:ok
User:I should start practice them. you're correct.
Doctor: XXXXXXX basically, you think that you want the happiness
Doctor:and you will do it to get your way
Doctor:Ultimately your happiness is important
Doctor:Do you agree with me?
User:Very true. I have given everything. Happiness is very important for me
User:is this my problem that am thinking happiness is very imp? not bothering about sexual life?
Doctor:So, please be free and free of tension and, it is your wife and you love her, so you should also be happy in your sexual life
Doctor:You should be happy in everything you do that is important
Doctor:At work, at home, with friends and with family
Doctor:It is the way you think
User:Dr. XXXXXXX you have understood what was in my mind. Am sure I will take this as a point to start
User:yes
Doctor:There is nothing wrong in being happy in your sexual life too
Doctor:It is your right
Doctor:Yes, restart your life
Doctor:And you will be happy
Doctor:Your wife also will be happy
Doctor:You will have a happy family
User:I have become very emotional now.
Doctor:Just practice these continuously
Doctor:Being emotional is also good
Doctor:Just little bit of correction is required from us
Doctor:changes to be brought in life
Doctor:Try to have a active sexual life
Doctor:Don't feel disheartened anytime
User:I agree with you. I will start practice them and will do whatever to achieve this.
Doctor:And you should adapt it as a lifestlye
Doctor:I am sure, you will have a happy and fulfilling sexual life and marital life
User:Should be part of life. I can sense that you have given same thoughts as I was before marriage.
Doctor:Nothing changes after marriage, we change the way we think
Doctor:And we take our partners for granted
User:Thank you very much for all your help. Its not that just you have done the job but you have give new sense of happiness in my life.
Doctor:so, life gets monotonous
User:you are correct. I should be in this way.
Doctor:thats nice XXXXXXX
Doctor:I wish a very happy life always
User:I can feel that sense now.
Doctor:Is there anything else I may help you with?
User:Thank you very much.
Doctor:Thanks for consulting me
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