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Non penetrative sex, had good foreplay - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   I met a CSW in Hong Kong last Friday in a bar. We had foreplay sessions but we did not engage in lip to lip kissing. I gave her a finger job during the foreplay. After that we came into a room where she gave me a handjob and I gave her a finger job. At no point during the entire session, we indulged in ORAL sex, nor we had VAGINAL or ANAL sex. I also recollect that at no point in time my penis brushed or touched her private areas. Also we never had lip to lip kissing.
I did touch my penis once with the same finger that I used to do a finger job and also scratched the outer side of my nose.
I was careful not to use that finger to eat anything till it was washed , but I used it to hold the glass to drink while we were in the bar.
Is there any risk of transmission?
I checked my finger if there was any wound, I do not think so. Is there a risk if there is a wound and the finger is used to do a finger job (Mine was only for less than a minute).
Do I need to look out for symptoms? If so what and when...
Do I need to be concerned?
Has there been any documented cases due to mastrubation?
Is there any remote chance as per my description above for any transmission ?
I have tried to replay the entire thing over and over again in my mind to see if I am missing any thing, however I am pretty sure that apart from her giving me a handjob and touching my penis, there was no other contact with her privae organs and certainly no VAGINAL or ANAL sex.
Kindly tell me what do I need to do?
Doctor :   Hi,
Doctor :  
User :   Hello Doctor
User :   Did you read my note above
Doctor :   Let me read your query for few minutes to be able to have a good discussion here
Doctor :   ok, there are some STDs which can be got by mere touch
Doctor :   like Herpes
User :   what about HIV
Doctor :   no , negligible chance to nil
User :   Ok I was more worried about tha
User :   How do I check about the others
Doctor :   there are tests for herpes, but best would be by clinical examination
User :   is there any symptoms
Doctor :   yes, in herpes there will be water filled lesions ( vesicles ) either in the oral cavity or over the genitilia
User :   When do I see thiese symptoms
User :   It has been over 2 weeks after the event
Doctor :   about after 2 to 3 weeks from the time of exposure
User :   Is there any other STDs that can be trasmitted
Doctor :   Genital/oral warts, louse infestation and hepatitis
Doctor :   you may be in risk for above
User :   I have taken hep vaccination
Doctor :   but more communicable would be herpes and hepatitis
Doctor :   since you are vaccinated for Hep , you are safe against it
User :   ok.
Doctor :   is there anything i can help you ?
User :   i am getting paranoid about the who;e event
Doctor :   do not worry
Doctor :   as we have excluded most of the stds
User :   I am sure that I did not have oral/vaginal or anal sex
Doctor :   just be cautious about herpes
User :   what is the treatment
User :   is it as bad as HIV
Doctor :   there are medications for the same and its curable
Doctor :   no , its not bad as HIV
User :   Doctor do you think I need to be checked for HIV as well with what I have described below
Doctor :   no,
User :   Actually I have been so stressed out , that I have got dermographism on my skin
User :   it is something that I have had for a long time
User :   I believe stress is one of the triggers
Doctor :   yes, could be . Its an allergic condition
User :   i was worried if it is manifestation of something, but I have had these episodes before especially after eating certain kind of food
Doctor :   yes , dermographism can be triggered by stress
User :   Well for the past couple of weeks, I have been so paranoid that my near and dear ones are suspecting that I have some mental problem
Doctor :   need not worry,
Doctor :   as i have cleared your doubts
User :   I have stopped communicating with people and an constantly on the net looking for answers
Doctor :   stop looking the internet , they will misguide you and increase the stress in you
User :   So if I do not see any vesicles do I still need to consult a doctor
Doctor :   no, there is no need
User :   BTW I always had fungal growth in my genital area. I normally use zole (micnazole )cream
Doctor :   yes, thats the best for it
User :   Can I consult you on one more thing?
Doctor :   yes, sure
User :   Me and mt wife have had very sparse physcial relationships for the past 6 years
Doctor :   ok,
User :   even when we have physical intimacy, I ejacualte soon with few minutes. Also she does not seemingly have lots of urge
User :   do we need to consult a therapist
Doctor :   try with more foreplay that helps
User :   ok.
Doctor :   anyway its better to consult a therapist
User :   what kind of therapist
User :   is it someone who does sexoloy
Doctor :   A sexologist
User :   the other thing that bugs me is my guilt feeling about this whole episode
User :   infact she keeps on asking me since I look paranoid if I have an affair
User :   but I cannot bring myself to tell her about it
User :   I also consulted people on website called "" where I have the same feedback as you have rendered
Doctor :   do not disclose about your problem , instead motivate her and involve in more fore play which will excite her
User :   could you refer any sexologist in Coimbatore, if you know someone
User :   or should i check with hospitals
Doctor :   May i know which place you reside in ?
Doctor :   ok let me check , give a minute
User :   I am in Palakkad (kerala) close to the TamiNadu border
User :   Coimbatore is the nearest city that I can gio
User :   I tried to check information but go no contacts for a sexologist in Palakkad
User :   By the time you check, since my time is getting near 30 mins, one last time, i wanted to ask you
Doctor :  
User :   I have been fully truthful about my note above . Is there anything apart from herpes that I really need to worry about?
Doctor :   not at al
User :   My last couple of weeks have been difficult
Doctor :   as i say do not worry
User :   infact i took out an insurance and did the whole check up it was ok
Doctor :   just leave the thoughts out and do not look into internet

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