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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Doctor :   hello
User :   hello
Doctor :   i am Dr XXX here
Doctor :   please proceed with your query
User :   yes doctor
User :   i have some sexual problem with my wife
User :   actually the whole problem is mine
Doctor :   tell me please
User :   i dont wish to do sex with my wife
User :   she gets angry
User :   are you busy
Doctor :   i am listening
Doctor :   please go on
User :   ok sir thanks
Doctor :   tell me the reason for your anger
User :   it happens occasionaly between me and wife
User :   if sex happens then it s her wish
Doctor :   why are you angry at your wife ?
User :   i love her too much
Doctor :   then what is the reason
User :   i dont know my disease
Doctor :   are you short tempered by nature?
User :   i have some bad habbits from my childhhod i think that you better understand
Doctor :   tell me
User :   no short tempered
User :   i take the most shortcut way for doing sex with my hand
Doctor :   are you doing that now too ?
User :   yes
Doctor :   what is it that makes you not have sex with your wife?
Doctor :   are you not attracted to her physically ?
User :   it gives more pleasure
User :   no attraction % is very much less
Doctor :   whats your age ? and how long have you been married ?
User :   nowadays i think that she is not sexy that why attraction is very much less
User :   Age 30 07 mths
Doctor :   when did you feel you are losing attraction towards your wife ?
User :   i dont know
User :   its very difficult to remember
Doctor :   how was your sex life when you got married ?
User :   our marriage - love marriage
User :   very bad
Doctor :   ok so when you got married how was your sex life then?
Doctor :   what problems are you facing when you try to have sex ?
User :   not regular sex it happened occassionaly
Doctor :   what problems are you facing when you try to have sex ?
Doctor :   what makes you feel she is not attracted to you anymore ?
User :   it is in my mind that the previous process is very much easier
User :   i dont know
Doctor :   are you able to get proper erection during intercourse ?
User :   if sex take place then it takes not more than 2 mins
Doctor :   so you come early ?
Doctor :   are you able to get full erection ?
User :   where?
Doctor :   do you consume alcohol ?
User :   occassionaly not regular because I dont like it
Doctor :   are you able to get full erection ?
User :   no
Doctor :   so that could be the reason for you not enjoying sex with your wife
Doctor :   and masturbation is not the answer
Doctor :   as your condition can improve
User :   how
Doctor :   number one is proper diet and exercise
User :   also i feel pain while doing sex
Doctor :   where do you feel pain?
Doctor :   are you ejaculating too soon ?
User :   in my penis
Doctor :   If your arousal levels are getting too high and a climax is beginning, take a deep breath and think about something else, something very boring if possible. When you are less aroused but maintaining an erection you can then continue.
User :   yes
Doctor :   If you find yourself nearing climax withdraw your penis from your partner and allow yourself to relax enough to prevent ejaculation. By starting and stopping sexual stimulation you can learn to prolong the sex act.
Doctor :   Squeeze Methods can help prevent premature ejaculation
This method involves either the man or his partner squeezing (fairly firmly) the end or the tip of the penis for 10 to 20 seconds when ejaculation is imminent, withholding stimulation for about 30 seconds, then continuing stimulation. This can be repeated until ejaculation is desired. The stop and start method can be used with the squeeze method as well.
Doctor :   Creams can be used to desensitize the end of the penis. They act like a local or tropical anesthetic decreasing sensitivity and therefore stimulation, thus prolonging the sexual act.
Doctor :   Remember getting good at sex and overcoming premature ejaculation can take a bit of time. Practice makes perfect.
User :   yes
Doctor :   If you find that things are not improving then help is available from sex therapists who are experts in this field.
Doctor :   as for not getting proper hard erections i would suggest you to exercise and be fit ... it will do wonders for your sex life
User :   i want to consult you
Doctor :   yes i am here to help you
User :   is it possible?
User :   Tell me how we can meet you
User :   Are you in XXX?
Doctor :   i am sorry that would not be possible
Doctor :   i am based in XXX
Doctor :   do try out my advise
Doctor :   i am sure they will help you
User :   ok doctor many many thanks .Goodnight.
Doctor :   your most welcome
Doctor :   take care
Doctor :   good night
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