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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :  
User :   Hi Sir
User :   I am Ankur AAAAAAA
Doctor :   Hi AAAAAAA How may I help you today?
User :   My Problem is related to psychotic
Doctor :   Go ahead with your query.
User :   ok
User :   I was Married Last 3rd December . My Wife was 21 year old studying in MCom .
User :   She belongs. I am working as .There is lots of trouble happened since my marraige .
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   may I know your age ?
User :   that time I was just 30 year and one month
Doctor :   Ok
User :   There was mediator her who was her , and he belongs to my father home town
Doctor :   ok
User :   Her father is teacher
Doctor :   ok
User :   my Father is roorkee He is only Engg in his village thus every knows him and famous for his hard work in studies
User :   His father said We are not capable to pay high ammount with asking by my family
User :   My father said we dont need any amount.You can pay on your own capabilty as U feel
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   pay mean dowry
User :   we both my and wife starts healthy talkying on phone.I between My Father Said location of marrage hall should be in where we live But They steadly that It should be in their or you can break the maarraige
User :   Yeah
Doctor :   ok
User :   but as we talk there famity was immpressed with and mediator also talks woth them finally my marrage was held in Ghaziab
User :   withme
User :   After marraige she satyed with me 6 days and get back to home
User :   I caome to back mumbai
Doctor :   She went back to her home
User :   But The next we were talking on phone And decided to come and mmeet her thus I came By Air And meet her In near her town But I didnt told to my familly.Her family knows that I came to meet her
Doctor :   ok
User :   There She starts cry That my mother has asked taking Hisaab lenaa with me
Doctor :   Hisaab lenaa means what?
User :   She asked how much money you have from your home so These are are to be distributed in realation As In our culture muh dikahyee type
Doctor :   OK
User :   Hissab XXXXXXXX Meaans asking for how much many do yu have
Doctor :   So your mother was asking how much money she brought , right?
Doctor :   OK
Doctor :   Why she left after marriage?
User :   that is giving by you famiy to give the relatives as our tradition in Hindu we have to give
Doctor :   Ok
User :   She does not like my mother
User :   She says she is rude to me she asked for dowry with my mother
Doctor :   OK
Doctor :  
Give your problems quickly, I may not get enough time to discuss
Doctor :   Where is she now?
User :   She stayed with me last 3 moths
User :   Now is in Her home town
Doctor :   Where is he now?
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Why did she go back again?
User :   She said I will not keep any relation with your family If You are agree than Its okey
Doctor :   Ever since marriage, she only stayed 3 mo and 6 days with you.
User :   Yes As her Mcom exams were thus stayed in Hime
User :   Other wise I will take Divorce And Here mausa said The come to banglore I will complete you BED
Doctor :   She left you because she could not manage your mother. Is that the reason, if i understand correctly?
User :   Yes
User :   But As she live with me in I notice that she has some Ego problem and thinks in negetive way
Doctor :   OK
User :   So whats should I do ?
Doctor :   She stayed at her home town because she had exams or or some other problem?
User :   She had exam but now As first in there home town thats pur tradition
Doctor :   Ok
User :   But Now she put the condition and mediator is close of there family and halping to break our relation
User :   I cant understand does she really loves me ?
Doctor :   You took so long time to explain your problem. The time may not be enough to counsel. I may need more time. I suggest you for additional minutes and discuss the issue completely. I will resolve your issie. OK
User :   Yes we can have more time I will pay for that
Doctor :   During the three months , did she love you?
Doctor :   During the three months what kind of physical relations you had?
User :   During three months we have lots of fight
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   WHy the mediator is trying to break your marriage?
Doctor :   Why you had fights?
Doctor :   Is she matured mentally?
Doctor :   Did she share your feeling?
User :   Fight for example: Whileshopping I said Please dont buy this product As I am lacking of money she left me shop and and me there and didnt come to home 1 hour Just like that fight.
Doctor :   Ok
User :   I dont think she is much matured mantly
Doctor :   She cares abt material but not thinking abt your financial problem.
User :   No not much she doed not shre her feeling but shee share with her mother
User :   She care of my fanatiall also but for some she argue with me with and mostly my fight she abuse my mother That I dont like
User :   I make her under stand but does does not try to under dtand
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   She is not matured
Doctor :   Do not take her to your home
Doctor :   Do not involve you mother
Doctor :   Do not let her talk to your mom
User :   Does she love me
Doctor :   She may she may not
Doctor :   She is not developed emotionally
Doctor :   You need to be more careful if you want to live her
User :   But I cannot Accept her condition what she asked for me I love mother also
Doctor :   You mean she is asking you to love her mother
Doctor :   or you are asking her to love ur mother
User :   No asking me that I will come to you only If I will not keep any relation to your family
Doctor :   Do that
Doctor :   If you love her do that'
Doctor :   Talk to ur mother U love her
Doctor :   and u want to keep the relation
Doctor :   Your life is importrant
Doctor :   Your married life is important
Doctor :   You may get offended. but this is true
Doctor :   many marriage are broken by mother in laws
Doctor :   Realise the reason for possible divorce and try to avoid the mistake
User :   ok Thanks for advice
Doctor :   Be assertive in your thinking
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