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Loneliness and disturbing thoughts - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Anxiety and Stress
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Practicing since : 2004
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   Hi
User :   I feel very lonely and feel no one cares about me esp my family
Doctor :   Ok
User :   I have many friends and my professional life is also good. But in my family I have started to feel that no one cares abt me. I am single and staying away from family.
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   May I ask you few questions to know about you?
User :   sure
Doctor :   Please give your Age, Gender, Location, Occupation, Marital status, Height, Weight and Waist circumference.
User :   age 29,female,XXXX,equity research analyst, single, 5'2", 50kgs and 28" respectively
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Since when are you feeling this?
User :   mostly since last month
Doctor :   Ok
User :   I had gone home last weekend and had a fight with my family, so more strongly now
Doctor :   Ok
User :   I had really great relations earlier but then lately I feel very neglected..
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Is it just a month?
User :   Now that I think of it...it has been there always but lately very obvious and hence disturbing
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Has anything related to your behaviour or work changed?
Doctor :   or has something signficant happened in the recent past?
User :   No its just that earlier I used to stay with my sister but now she is gone home and I all alone here...so the support is gone...plus I dont think my family actually cares
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   That could be a significant reason
Doctor :   to change your perception in life
User :   my staying alone??
User :   yes I feel lonely and dont find any comfort from family..emotionally
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   How is your vocational life going?
User :   Professional is gud...want a change but it really isnt a concern now
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   May I know the reason why your sister left?
User :   she is undergoing a breast cancer treatment and so stays at home...but this has been going for a year now...and i never felt so lonely earlier
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I can understand
User :   my family was undergoing a crisis and we were all together in it but now it feels I am all alone
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   How do you spend time in a typical day usually?
User :   I leave early at 6 for office, work till 5 mostly, and then mostly by myself after that...reading or watching Tv mostly
Doctor :   Ok
User :   earlier calling my home was an everyday routine but then I realized that they hardly called if i didnt call...and I made this clear that I didnt like this
Doctor :   ok
User :   now after this visit...I wonder if I will ever go back home...I am very angry/disturbed and hurt...
Doctor :   Now you should not get perturbed with each and every activity
Doctor :   if that is the cases
Doctor :   none of us can live life peacefully
User :   earlier i just ignored things...but if I cant expect from my family then who else?
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   but you might have changed in perceiving things
Doctor :   rather than they having changed
Doctor :   that possiblity is there
Doctor :   which I want you to think of
User :   yes maybe...but its still very disturbing to see me parting ways from my family
User :   i really love it a lot....but now I am more hurt
User :   and everyone else thinks there is no problem...I am not asking for more....just for them to be a little caring for me....
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   I agree
Doctor :   now you stop expecting
Doctor :   be nil towards expectation
Doctor :   you shall see their changes
Doctor :   since life is going on normally
Doctor :   you wont be able to feel it
User :   thats how I was....
User :   but it is difficult now
Doctor :   once there is some crisis or a problem you have got
Doctor :   then you will realize the value of your family
Doctor :   in a usual case
User :   they dont need me..
Doctor :   How is your sleep and appetite?
User :   i didnt eat much at home....didnt feel like....but otherwise its fine here
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   and sleep?
User :   gud...6-7hours
Doctor :   fine
Doctor :   you are quite healthy mentally
Doctor :   Do you exercise?
User :   I used to but not lately
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   YOu should restart
Doctor :   Exercise will relieve you of stress
Doctor :   Join a gym or aerobics class
Doctor :   meet peope there
Doctor :   interact with them
Doctor :   add more beauty to life
User :   ok will try
Doctor :   Develop interest in recreational activities such as sports or music.
User :   I am very cool with friends...no one knows that i have any problems in family
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   You are not having a close friend I feel
Doctor :   thats why you are not expressing it
User :   I have many close friends but I dont discuss family with them...
User :   It makes me depressed...
Doctor :   not at alls
Doctor :   share your feelings
Doctor :   with people you trust
Doctor :   and who reciprocate
Doctor :   Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or meditation. Deep
breathing helps you relax and get more oxygen into your lungs.
User :   ok
Doctor :   With these minor changes
Doctor :   you can change your minor world
Doctor :   and brings in a major impact on your life
Doctor :   Dont think of negative things
Doctor :   think of positive things
Doctor :   good old past memories
User :   i hope its minor and temporary....its a disturbing thought to loose ties with my family otherwise
Doctor :   Sure
Doctor :   It shall subside with sometime
Doctor :   it shall be faster
User :   Thanks I hope so
Doctor :   if you try the ones I mentioned
User :   ok I will try.
User :   Thanks for listening me out...
Doctor :   If things, dont improve
Doctor :   then do not hesitate to approach us
Doctor :   or consult a psychiatrist
User :   sure thanks
Doctor :   Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   no thts it for now....I was distrubed onyl abt this now....and was having very negative thoughts
User :   but lets see if your suggestion works
Doctor :   It shall
Doctor :   You will see the changes
User :   Thanks
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting me. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.

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