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Lack of ejaculation during intercourse with wife - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   i would like a consultation
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   I am Dr AAAAAAA
Doctor :   How can I help you ?
User :   thnks doctor
User :   i have been happily marrried to wife
Doctor :   Ok
User :   but the issue is that i am not able ejaculate inside
User :   when i do masturbation..its not a problem
User :   i can control the ejacualtion at my will
User :   is it coz of a mental block
User :   doctor u there?
Doctor :   Ok, Could you let me know some other details like your age , Since how long have you been married ?
User :   age 30..married since 1.5 yrs
User :   wife is a doc
User :   its not abt erection
User :   erection not an issue
Doctor :   Ok, I have got your point .
User :   and before marriage i had sex once with my gf..
User :   tht time i cud ejaculate.
User :   so i doubt whthr its mental block or maybe something else.
Doctor :   You mean to say that you could not ejaculate even once after intercourse ?
Doctor :   with your wife ?
User :   no..
User :   the thing is i travel..
User :   and i used to stay in xxxx for some time and my wife was having her house surgency
User :   so we didnt have much oppurtunites.
User :   but i wud say we would have tried 40-50 days..but never once ejacualted
Doctor :   I will have to ask some questions which might be personal, please try to be true to yourself.
Doctor :   Do you follow ?
User :   yes
User :   please ask
User :   i will be honest with my replies
Doctor :   So i would like to know if you are physically attracted to your wife ?
User :   sir..its a big fact
User :   i love her..but physically not much attracted
Doctor :   And do you get sexually excited by her ?
Doctor :   Ok
User :   not much
User :   but she is not bad looking..
Doctor :   Do you still hold thoughts of your previous girl friend or some other character on screen/movie/etc.
User :   i have dreamt of others when trying to ejaculate..so that it is possible
User :   yes..i think that was my answer
User :   yes i hold thought of previous girlfriend
Doctor :   I feel to get your thoughts right you need to take some steps..
User :   please advice
Doctor :   Both physically, emotionally to change your psyche.
Doctor :   You need to understand that this has become a new phenomenon of modern days because of exposure to internet, movies, etc.
User :   sir one resson i think i wasnt attracted is maybe bcz we have frequesnt fights..
User :   not serious ones..but they happen often
User :   ok sir
Doctor :   But it can be worked out very easily by mutual co-operation.
User :   i am marking ur words
User :   ok...
Doctor :   You have to discuss this with your wife, not totally but partially and ask her also to help you out.
User :   ok
User :   i got ur point
User :   shall i ask u one thing
Doctor :   Hope you understand what I meant by partially.
Doctor :   Please try to follow the steps that I mention : User :   yes i got..that not to disclose previous affair with her
User :   yes i will
Doctor :   Yes.
User :   when i masturbate..i acheive the last touch which is requirted for ejaculation..
User :   that doesnt happen during the sex..
User :   maybe bcz the penis movement is in one direction
User :   with my previosu gf..i wasnt the reason..
User :   ok tell me sir
Doctor :   1. Need to spend some time together in a secluded location to take time out and spend time with each other, understand one another and emotionally love each other.
User :   ok
User :   i am listening
Doctor :   2. Stop worrying about petty things in life and try to get broader in perspective though your wife may not be which will bind you both.
User :   ok
Doctor :   3. You need to ask her for some help to help masturbate you for some time and then intercourse and then again masturbate.
User :   yes..i will..she doesnt like that..but now will convince her
Doctor :   This alternative mechanism will surely help you ejaculate after a few times.
User :   i will do them sir
User :   thanks a lot
User :   anything else to follow?
Doctor :   4. You also need to convince her abou the foreplay which is very esential like gentle massage.
User :   ok..
Doctor :   5. if you do this very patiently to her she might do the same , at the end of the day it is a give and take.
Doctor :   I mean the fore play.
User :   lastly can i ask u whether this problem is common?
Doctor :   Hope you have followed.
User :   i have
User :   thanks doctor
Doctor :   I have told you already that this has become common these days because of overexposure to internet,etc.
Doctor :   Take care, hope you both have a happy marital life.
User :   thank u
Doctor :   Bye for now.
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