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How to overcome fear in childhood? - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 14-Dec-2013
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User:I have 9 years old son. he felt some fear at school how can i help him to remove his fear
Doctor:How can I help you?
User:I have 9 years old son. he felt some fear at school how can i help him to remove his fear
User:R u there
Doctor:Generally a child overgrows
Doctor:this kind of fear.
Doctor:You do not need any kind of special treatment
Doctor:expect to talk to him
Doctor:find out what is threatening him.
User:yes I did already
Doctor:You may also speak to him teachers and friends and understand if he is harmed already.
User:I would like to share some past instance with u
Doctor:If there is repeated fears, his physical activity and study is affected
Doctor:you may take him to a counsellor.
User:no it is not happen
User:he is very good in study
Doctor:On other thoughts, some schools have their own student counsellor
Doctor:they may help him over come this problem
User:and physical activity
User:as a mom how can i help him
Doctor:As I said earlier, there can be trivial things that can cause fear in the mind of children.
Doctor:Usually with time, they over grow it.
Doctor:If you feel the fear is growing in him for long duration of time,
Doctor:you will need to bring out his fear to be able to solve it.
Doctor:You may take help of a counsellor. There are specialist Pediatric psychiatrist or counsellors at school
Doctor:who can be able to get to the root of this problem
Doctor:and solve it.
Doctor:You can take their help.
User:will definately check in his school
User:but should i also do something at home
Doctor:Yes, talk to his teachers and you will be able to find out the real problem.
User:he even did not go to other room alone
User:actually some of his class mets saying bludy marry is in washroom
User:and then he felt fear
Doctor:As I said earlier, if this fear is growing consistently, you can take him to a counsellor and talk to him. But I prefer
Doctor:you to talk to him. You may use religious beliefs to bring out the fear out of him.
Doctor:Show him that there is nothing called "bloody Mary"
Doctor:If needed, you can stay with him through his routine.
Doctor:And offcourse, talk to his teachers at the school.
Doctor:Have you followed?
User:he itself told his teacher as he is class monitor
User:teacher said last year students also saying the same thing
Doctor:If that is the case, I think you can give it time.
User:this is not the solution
Doctor:Encourage him and make him optimistic.
User:i really feel help less in this case sir
User:any other idea or solution for this type of issue
User:may be i am over react for this small issue
Doctor:I think at this point of time, it is necessary to read the child's mind set.
Doctor:May be your over concerned, or may be he really has the fear.
User:he did not discussed many thing with us
Doctor:It wouldn't be extremely hard to treat him, reading your queries.
Doctor:If you feel he is really worried by these instant, it is necessary that an expert talks to him
User:not talketive boy
Doctor:Do not worry about his behaviour.
Doctor:There are professionals who can be able to dig out his fear.
User:if he did not talk how can we understand his probs and issue
Doctor:A child psychatrist or any other clinical psychologist can be able to talk to him
Doctor:and understand his problem
Doctor:and provide you the solution.
Doctor:Have you followed?
User:last time we discussed with one child cycologist
User:he said do not take him for any discussion
User:that's effect child mind - ve
User:so we did not go
Doctor:As a Physician, I do not know the reason for his decision. However if a fear is really troubling him and affecting him, if it doesn't improve
Doctor:then I don't feel there is a harm in one or two sessions.
Doctor:May be you can talk about this issue with the same counsellor
Doctor:and take his views.
Doctor:If he has already talked to him
User:do we have some books or some docs to understand child mind
Doctor:he will be able to provide the next option of treatment.
Doctor:As a parent, I believe the more time you spend with your child is the best way to understand his mind.
User:as i am a working lady
Doctor:you can read books on parenting.
User:as i am a working lady it's lil difficult to spent more time with him
Doctor:They can help you how to help your child grow even if you are working lady.
User:or this is for alone child probs
Doctor:I am sorry, can you rephrase your last statement.
User:i mean to say these type of issue cause as my child is alone son of mine
Doctor:Before I answer this question, I would have to say that without talking to your son
Doctor:it is really difficult for me to understand what exactly the problem is.
Doctor:Without knowing the real problem what your son is facing
Doctor:it would be extremely hard to tell you if this is because of a lone son.
User:Sir can we arrange a concall between you and my son?
Doctor:I would only encourage you to spare some time and use good parenting skills to understand him first.
Doctor:A pediatric counsellor would be the right person to talk to him. If you feel he is really troubled,
Doctor:please talk to the doctor who had met him earlier.
User:we did not met any doctor that time
Doctor:He can be able to say if there is a relation between his earlier problem and the current one.
User:we just discussed on phone
Doctor:I think you need to talk to a child pychiatrist again
Doctor:you can describe his problems again.
Doctor:May be the same doctor.
Doctor:if needed you can take him personally to him and get this issue solved.
User:ok sir
User:thanks for your valuable time
Doctor:Thanks for consulting me.
Doctor:Bye for now.
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