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Formed penis with balanitis and over mastubation and suicidal thoughts - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :  
how can i help you?
User :   I have big problems
User :   .
Doctor :  
please proceed with your query
User :   ever since I have damaged my penis, my life has not been the same
User :   the fact is I hate working
User :   but I know that we all have to work
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
how did the penis got damage?
Doctor :   is there history of any injury to it?
User :   however, I used masturbation as a way of relieving the stress and unhappiness
Doctor :  
ok
User :   to the point of masturbating once a day
User :   and at the beginning, I didn't think much because I thought the penis will not be damaged
User :   even if masturbating once a day
User :   but I know that I have gone over
User :   thus one day, I rubbed my penis head too hard
Doctor :  
ok
User :   and I was under tremendous pain
User :   to the point where I cannot even walk
User :   and I saw many doctors but they could not help
User :   that's when the fear came in
User :   for once I realized that medicine cannot solve all the problems
Doctor :  
what did the doctors diagnose?
User :   because before I thought that no matter what I did to my penis, there was a solution to recover
User :   balanitis
Doctor :  
ok
User :   but I know it's due to my rubbing the penis too hard
User :   and it's because of the sexual desire and addiction
User :   which I cannot control
User :   thus
User :   my penis is in a very bad state right now
Doctor :  
Balanitis is the inflammation of the glands located in the head and foreskin of the penis.
User :   it looks pretty bad
User :   yes
User :   the problem is that I cannot control my sexual desire
User :   I feel like I want to masturbate all the time
User :   I know this led to the damage of the penis
Doctor :  
ok
User :   and also to a state where I cannot work at all right now
User :   because of this dark shadow
Doctor :  
i sugest you to get it examined by a andrologist or a urologist' and take treatment for the thrush that they have diagnosed
User :   they said the penis is fine
User :   but the problem is I cannot accept the way it looks right now
User :   also there is this dark shadow which I cannot get out of
Doctor :   ok
User :   because the big problem is that I'm fighting with suicidal thoughts every day
Doctor :  
ok
User :   I have been fighting with this for one year
Doctor :  
the Balanitis can be treated. Do not worry
User :   and I have not worked for one year
Doctor :  
i recommend you to discuss with your doctor teh possibility of doing a swab culture to
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identify the organism for t=it
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and then treat it
User :   the doctors say the penis is fine
User :   but I have this psychological shadow that hangs over me everyday
User :   because I don't believe I can go back to work under these conditions
Doctor :  
ok
User :   see I don't believe that I can lead a normal life again
Doctor :  
if the problem has been due to psychological reasons.
User :   that's why I have suicidal thoughts
Doctor :  
then a counselling session with psychologist is recommended
User :   I don't know how I can go back to what I was before
Doctor :  
WWW.WWWW.WW User :   to the normal state
Doctor :   you coul dvisit this link to speak to our panel sexologist and psychologist
User :   is there a way to supress the sexual desire?
User :   see, the problem was
User :   when I had the penis injury
Doctor :  
yes
User :   I told myself not to masturbate anymore
User :   and I tried to suppress myself
User :   ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
User :   I'm very tired
User :   of living like this every day
Doctor :  
you require medical help. I recommend you to take a psychologist help
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at the earliest
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and discuss your feelings and thoughts with him/her
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and they will help you to overcome them
User :   the problem is that during the daytime I feel like just giving up
User :   I feel that there is no hope and just take the easy way out
Doctor :  
ok
User :   so I am constantly fighting with myself
User :   with suicidal thoughts
Doctor :  
you will overcome these thoughts once you start with the counseling sessions with them.
User :   and I am very tired
User :   how can I work under these conditions?
User :   when I'm fighting with suicidal thoughts every day
User :   I'm thinking the best solution would be to
User :   1) have cosmetic surgery to restore my penis to the way it looks before
User :   2) somehow manage to not masturbate anymore
Doctor :   if teh problem is due to balanitis, then the restoration surgery would not help
Doctor :  
the treatment should be focussed on treating it first and maintaning cleanliness
User :   right now, the skin is all loose and wrinkly
Doctor :  
ok
User :   yes
User :   it looks pretty bad
User :   due to the inflammation
Doctor :  
ok
User :   and a bad chemical reaction with Oxistat
Doctor :  
the inflammation ne4eds to be controlled with the medications and the
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infection which is responsible for it has to identified and treated
User :   if my penis can be restored to the way it looks before, that will be a big step in helping me recover psychollogically
Doctor :  
ok
User :   but I know that's very difficult
Doctor :  
is it possible for you to send a picture of the penis damage to us to have a look at it
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?
User :   because even cosmetic surgery has its limits
Doctor :  
if yes, send it to YYYY@YYYY
User :   yes
User :   but let me get a better camera first
User :   the camera I have right now is not very good and is blurry
Doctor :  
ok
User :   can cosmetic surgery be done on the penis?
Doctor :  
you can send it later or send when you come for chat next time
Doctor :  
the chnaces of the restoration surgery and cosmetic surgery success can be discussed with the
Doctor :  
cosmetic surgoen
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who after examining it will tell whether it wil be of use or not
User :   ok
User :   see the big problem is that during the daytime I feel like not seeking help
User :   during the day time is when the suicidal thoughts are very strong
User :   right now it is night time, that is why I'm chatting with you and would like to seek help
User :   during the day time, I feel like just giving up
User :   because I feel like there is no hope and no solution
Doctor :  
during the day time I would suggest you not to be alone, spend time with freinds
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seek medical or psychological help
Doctor :  
from professionals
User :   and right now, the biggest hurdle for me is getting back to work
User :   how can I work under the current conditions?
User :   when I have to fight with suicidal thoughts every minute and every second
User :   when I wake up in the morning is when the feeling is the strongest
User :   that is why I'm also very afraid to go to sleep
User :   because I know that next day, the same routine will repeat itself
Doctor :  
you really need to speak to a psychaitrist or a psychologist
Doctor :   please follow the link provided earlier to speak to one of our panel specialists
Doctor :  
they wil be able to help you better
User :   I wish so much that I can have a normal life
User :   I also want to live normally
Doctor :  
you will surely have a normal life
Doctor :  
do not worry
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all you need to so is seek help at right time
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which is now
User :   see I think the biggest problem which caused all of this is the sexual addiction
User :   the over masturbation
User :   there is always this fear now
User :   before I didn't think much and I didn't think that penis will get damaged
Doctor :  
masturbation will not not laed to damage when done gently
User :   but now I feel very guilty
User :   and always have this fear
Doctor :  
when done vigorously or roughly then chanes are that penis might get damaged
User :   yes
Doctor :  
you need to come out of the guilt feeling
User :   but now it seems like every time I masturbate I will damage it more
Doctor :  
almost 98% of men masturbate
Doctor :  
i sugest you to follow these steps, it might help you
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1) when masturbating , masturbate gently, not to hurt penis
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2) maintain hygeine, wash after each act
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3) get it examined and possible tests done to identify if any infection is present
Doctor :   4) once teh infection is treated well, consider speaking to cosmetic surgeon ofr possible reconstruction
Doctor :  
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User :   okay
User :   thank you very much
User :   is there a way
Doctor :  
5) meet a psychologist/psychiatrist or a sexologist and discuss your thoughts
Doctor :   to get help
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to come out of teh suicidal thoughts
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and start leading a normal life
Doctor :  
the more you delay in seeking help, the more worse the thoughts might get
User :   is there a way to completely get rid of sexual desire and thoughts?
User :   ok
Doctor :   ther is no complete way to get rid of them as they are inherent part of life and human nature
Doctor :  
you ca however minimise them
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by diverting your mind to creative things and hobbies
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play games and go for outings and spending time with friends and family
Doctor :   have you folowed what I said?
User :   yes
Doctor :  
Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   the big problem is that my body will feel awkward and very uncomfortable if I don't masturbate for a long time
User :   I know this is because of the frequent masturbation
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
what is the frequency of masturbation?
User :   once a day
Doctor :  
ok
Doctor :  
that is normal, do not worry, masturbation for more than 14-15 times a week is considered to be overmasturbation
Doctor :  
Please fill the feedback form say done when done.
User :   done
User :   every day is like torture for me
Doctor :   please follow the sugested steps and get it examined as early as possible
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to get rid of teh infection
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and take psychologist help to overcome suidcidal thoughts
Doctor :  
Thanks for consulting me. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
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