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Fear about pain during first time sex - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   hi doctor
User :   doc. this is related to my sex life
Doctor :   ok
User :   can u help me
Doctor :   Yes I believe I can help you
User :   sir, i got married in the month of june but there is no sexual relationship between me and my husband. actually i am little worried abut this
Doctor :   What do you think is the primary reason?
Doctor :   Is it with you or your husband?
User :   actually i am very much scared abt the pain in intercourse.
Doctor :   Why are you scared? did you experience it?
User :   no doctor
User :   i have heard and read abt that there is a pain when u do intercourse at first time. i made myself confidence reg. this but failed. when we try to do intercourse. i feel very scared.
User :   and avoid the process.
Doctor :   Anxiety is the first thing that makes you couple take away from IC
Doctor :   you should avoid that
Doctor :   These are the un realistic scriptures that you have seen
Doctor :   sorry read
Doctor :   not every woman has pain
Doctor :   even it is not the pain that is the pleasure
Doctor :   In the initial days the woman has small opening which gets bigger and accomodate the male organ
Doctor :   so you can use lubrication measures to avoid the pain
Doctor :   like lubricated condoms, jelly like KY jelly by men
Doctor :   which lubricates the area and eases the penetration
Doctor :   Please confirm your details
Doctor :   are you there
User :   yes i am
User :   what ky jelly
User :   is it just like condom
Doctor :   no
Doctor :   it is a jelly which can be applied locally at
User :   then
Doctor :   the vagina
Doctor :   before having sex
Doctor :   it provodes lubrication
Doctor :   and reduces the pain
Doctor :   are you there?
Doctor :   I have to close this window since there is no response from your side, please get back to us if you need further medical advice. We are available from 9AM to 9PM IST everyday.
Doctor :   hi
User :   From where I can get the ky jelly
Doctor :   its available in any medical store
User :   ok
Doctor :   you can try fem gel
Doctor :   that can be applied locally at the vagina
User :   is there any side affects
Doctor :   no
User :   locally means like near the vagina not inside
Doctor :   at the opening
Doctor :   ky jelly can be applied to the penis
User :   ok.
Doctor :   also indulge in foreplay
User :   ok doc. is it better than condom?
Doctor :   as it lubricates the vagina
Doctor :   that depends upon
Doctor :   individual preference
User :   ok
Doctor :   the main thing is to communicate with your husband
Doctor :   a good communication reduces half the anxiety
User :   how much time will it take to insert the penis into vagina at the first time.
Doctor :   it should be done slowly and gradually
Doctor :   first gentle probing should be done prior to deep
Doctor :   penetration
User :   ok sir. sir one more question, actualy sir, some time pre-mature ejaculatin problem occurs with my husband. what should we do to avoide this problem
Doctor :   again good amount of foreplay helps
Doctor :   the most common reason is stress
Doctor :   we will send you a document on premature ejaculation
Doctor :   also please confirm your details
User :   but sir, when we do foreply and then try for intercourse, then liquid flow very early within 2 minutes.
Doctor :   i suggest taht your husband tries stress relaxation
Doctor :   like yoga meditation
Doctor :   also i would suggest a
Doctor :   natural supplement called
Doctor :   TWO PER DAY
User :   whats the reason behind this problem .... does it affect on our sexual life later, year after year
Doctor :   the most common reason is stress
User :   doc. r u there
Doctor :   yes
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   I have to close this chat window as you have moved out of the chat. Please log in again if you need further medical advice.
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