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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   hi need some help its about my husband one day he will be fine next its like i am not there he doesnt talk to me or the kids he get so cross with are son for no reason and me as well. is lies r out of control i dont no wat to do anymore please help?
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   may i know your age and that of your husband please ?
Doctor :   also please mention your occupation as well ?
User :   i am 20 and he is 22
User :   i am a stay at home mum and he is a butcher
Doctor :   may i know the age of the kids please ?
Doctor :   is he on medications ?
User :   yes are son is 2 and a half and are daughther is 6 months
User :   no he is on no medication
Doctor :   can u explain the situation when there is animosity between you guys ?
Doctor :   IS there any kind of stress, in the family ?
User :   no we just got married a month ago and things got even worse he check up on me all the time i cant go out cause he wont look after the kids and he never thinks anything is wrong between me and him
Doctor :   Does he seem to be happy or stressed due to something ?
User :   alway stressed and anger about most things he says it was work but i talked to his work friends and they say he is always fine at work. its like he is two different people
Doctor :   Does he play with the kids, does he like being in the house ?
User :   no never does he talk or play with the kids its always a fight to get him to do anything wit them and when he does its like he doesnt want to and he will say how good of him to do it
Doctor :   it seems that he is not happy with the current situation
Doctor :   he will need some counselling , and it is important to note what is in his mind
Doctor :   whether there are things that can be sorted out by counselling and stressors can be removed
Doctor :   Does he drink alcohol all the time ?
User :   yes most night he says its to take his mind of work
Doctor :   Does he offer assistance for doing chores at home ?
Doctor :   i think, its probably not anything related to work
Doctor :   it might be this that , he is stressed after marriage, and he may be finding it overwhelming
User :   no never but when we go to his parents home he its like he is a different person and i am making it all up cause they dont see it
Doctor :   marriage counselling and psychotherapy will be helpful
Doctor :   this suggests that he is keeping a image for his parents that all is well
Doctor :   and he is anxious , about some situation at home,
User :   but he was like that even when we where not married
User :   yes he can be
Doctor :   he should be benefited by a one- on one talk , so that we get to know what is bothering him
User :   but he always says that nothing is wrong with him
Doctor :   if you can take him to his doctor or a psychiatrist,
Doctor :   it will help him and you
Doctor :   he will say anyting to get out and not talk about it
Doctor :   I hope you have understood my advice
Doctor :   take care and bye for now
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