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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Very Good Posted in: Erectile Dysfunction
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User :   how can i over come with pre ejaculation problem?

Doctor :   hi
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ok
User :   hi
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since when are you facing this problem?'
User :   after marriage
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please provide your age, location, occupation, marital status.
Doctor :  
ok
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is there any problems in achieving the erection?
User :   i am 30 years, , married
Doctor :   is there any problem in maintaining the erection? once yu get an erection, how long can you maintain it?
User :   no doctor. its too soon i eracted
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do you have night time erections?
User :   no doctor
Doctor :   do you have early morning erections? is your penis erect when you wake up in morning?
User :   i eracted too soon before my patner get
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do you used to masturbate? before marriage was there any problem in erections?
User :   no doctor at morning hours i have too much problem to eract
Doctor :  
were you able to maintain erection before marriage?
Doctor :   what problems do you face in morning hours?
User :   there no eraction
Doctor :  
ok
User :   but in day time i eracted too soon
Doctor :  
did you have these problems before you were married?
User :   i dont know
Doctor :   or have these symptoms after you got married?
User :   yes after marrige
Doctor :  
see these problems sometimes happen in people after marriage.
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you will improve
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do not worry
User :   yes doc
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i will sugest you few things/steps to folow
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which wil help you
User :   sorry
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Why are you saying Sorry? what for?
User :   i cann't understood your question thats why
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now have you understood?
User :   ya
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ok
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shall we proceed with the tips?
User :   tell me sir
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1) Talk to your wife, be open in your approach, find out what she expects out of you in terms of sex, and personal life
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2) know your expectations. ask her to support you such that you can be able to satisfy her
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3)Do a lot of foreplay before indulging in penetrative sex
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women tend to get more satisfied with cuddling and foreplay, and then go ahead with the penetrative sex.
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4) control your will power, do not ejaculate soon. in case you feel that you cannot control, than slow down your pace, divert back into only foreplay for sometime
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such that the ejaculation sensation goes off
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then resume intercourse again
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this way you will be able to maintain erection for long time and satisfy your wife
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but first, talk to her, make her comfortable as a your friend, she too is human and has lot of expectations from you
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so talk out
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know what she wants and feels, and then discuss with her
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and ask for her support
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Have you folowed what i have said?
User :   yes
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Please get back to me in case of doubts.
Doctor :   Is there any thing else I can help you with?
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do you have any other query that you want to ask?
User :   yes doc . but if i get back while penatration will she get angry/
Doctor :  
since when are you married?
User :   only before six month
Doctor :   no she will not and thats why i told that talking to her is more important
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you will improve
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do not worry
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remember "practice makes a man perfect"
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do not lose hope
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slowly tings will settle down
User :   no , if i ask her she said its doest a matter.
User :   but i read in her face that uynsatisfy
Doctor :  
when you stop the penetrative sex, get back to foreplay, such that your wife's mood is still elevated and she is satisfied
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you need to be like a freind to her she wil tel you what she wants
User :   shall i get any madisin?
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since i have not examined you i cannot prescribe medications
User :   or drugs?
Doctor :  
you will not need medication first of all
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as per your history what you have given me
User :   than how can i over come from this?
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your problem will get solved with these measures
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have confidence in yourself first
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then you can overcome anything
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just follow what i have suggested
User :   i have a lot of confidet but i cann't control the ejaculation
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and if in a months time stil you do not feel any improvement, then counselling is recommended for both of you husband and wife together
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with the above mentioned techniques you will be able to control
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do not worry
User :   will you please suject any drugs to delay the ejaculation
Doctor :  
put the advise into practice
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there are no drugs to delay ejaculation, only your will power can help you
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you are a man, why you need any drugs when you are young?
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drugs are there for people who have severe diabetes, BP or heart problem
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you do not have any
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so why worry and take drugs, theese have their own side effects also.
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which are bad
User :   then why i have this problem
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i hav etold you earlier that this is common for some people to have after marriage
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you will improve
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some people take almost a year long to come out of it
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you are only 6 months into marriage
User :   somebody told me this is the weekness of the nerve system in body. is it true
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talk to your wife and make her comfortable
Doctor :   no it is not, unless proven
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do not believ rumors
User :   she will not compromised
User :   i cann't cheat in bed
Doctor :  
she does not need to compromise, she only has to be supportive and it just the start of your life together
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sont make this one issue spoil entire life
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understanding and care is far more important than sex
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so understand her needs, be true to her in telling her what problem is happening and that if she is ready to help, it will improve
User :   thats why i am asking to solve this problem. other wise she will have a chance to get another partner
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i am sure she wil help you and understand
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and be at your side
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give her all your love care and support
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she wil not want any other partner
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with parctice and patience you will be able to satisfy her in bed too
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+*practice
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just folow these tips what i have suggested
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for a month
User :   i am ready to be patiant but how to compramise herself
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and get back to me in case stil not solved
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you are not understanding
User :   i ogt it
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kindly do not assume things on your own about her mentality
User :   i got it contineu
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speak to her
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and start practicing the tips
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make efforts from your side to prolong theejaculation
User :   ok
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it will help you
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do not worry and be confused
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you are not facing this problem alone
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about 60% of people have this problem
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and almost everyone recovers out of this
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by following what i have suggested earlier
User :   she is not ready to compramize she think i cheaded her
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and are able to lead a happy life satisfying their partners
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stip thinking all these these thougts are not going to help you in anyways rather it will make your performance bad
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think of positive things
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and how you can control your ejaculation keeping the tips in mind
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and you do better
Doctor :   STOP THINKING NEGATIVE
User :   but its XXXXXXXX she told me in front of my face
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then you hav eto prove yourself by helping her to change her mind
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about this
User :   yes
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and teh only to prove yurself is by trying out
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the suggestions
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and still if she does not feel good then she will also need a counselling
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most women do not need this
User :   thats way i asked i could i improve my self without her help
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if adequate foreplay and understanding is there between her and her partner
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then forget about her help
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just talk to her about her expectations
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and think on how you can make them happen
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think about how you can satisfy'what you can do to delay the ejaculation
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and satisfy her, soon she wil understand that you are trying your best to satisfy her
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and she wil change her mind
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wish you good luck
User :   thank you
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follow the suggestion for a month
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if not better
User :   ok
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then both of you wil need counselling sessions
User :   where?
Doctor :  
as sometimes when women have to high expectation they need to be told that they have to come down to ground level instead of flying high
Doctor :   i wil tel you when yu need it
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right now it is not needed
User :   i am 30 years old , but she is 20, is this diffrent make anythin inconvineance
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you can get a counselling done at any family welfare clinic, or apsychologist.
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no it will not make any inconvinience
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you both are young
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think of positiveness around you
User :   ok doctor thank you very much
User :   i will try to get good reasult
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satisfaction does limit to only sexual life there are other aspects in life that has to be taken care of
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all the very best
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Is there any thing else I can help you with?
User :   thankyou doctor . nothing else
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User :   what should i?
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you can give your feedback about this discussion that you had with me
Doctor :   about how you felt about it
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User :   i finished it but i have only one question that what is the main problem for the soon ejaculation
User :   sorry main reason for this type of problem
Doctor :  
what i can make out from your history is a common problem which does not have any particualr reason
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many pepl have this problem
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and recover out of it with time and these tips
Doctor :   since both of you are young you will overcome this
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do not worry and keep thinking about it
User :   ok doctor but before marrige i didn't anything wrong then why i should have this problem?
Doctor :  
rather think of ways to improve and come out of it
Doctor :   I told you there is no specific reason, with practice and time people improve
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User :   ok doc thank you very much to clear my self
Doctor :   get back to us if stil not finding improvements in one month time
User :   ya sure
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