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Erectile dysfunction due to anxiety, health diet - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :  
How can I help you?
User :   Hello Doctor
User :   I am from chennai
User :   I got married 40 days back..
User :   we tried sex around 10 times in the 40 days.. we didnot succeed..
User :   my wife also scared to insert.. now she is ok..
User :   so todayi tried to insert.. but i didnot
User :   i think my erection is not enough to insert.
User :   please advice me or give me some prescriptions
Doctor :   since it is early days of marrage
Doctor :   you seem to be more apprehensive and your wife is also has got some anxiety in her
Doctor :   that is making the matters difficult with you
Doctor :   What is your age
User :   I am 29
Doctor :   Ok
User :   our marriage is love marriage, so no anexity with her doctor
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   What is her age
User :   for both of us this is first time sex. so we dont know which position is easy for first time sex
User :   she is 25
Doctor :   Are you doing enough fore play
Doctor :   You may choose any position which is comfortable
User :   around 15 to 20 minutes I am doing doctor
User :   ok doctor
User :   that time i have erections, but soon my erection is reducing.. since she is not simulating my organs..
Doctor :   Girl lying down and man on top is the best position initially
User :   ok doctor.
Doctor :   Why is she not erection
Doctor :   co operating for your erection
User :   She said she dont like to touch or simulate my penis.. since it releasing precum.
Doctor :   She should practice that
Doctor :   You make her do it
Doctor :   it takes time
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   Do not force her
Doctor :   in doing it
Doctor :   Let her take time
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   But say her that you like her doing it
Doctor :   Since she loves you she will accept it gradually
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   In fact you do not need a tablet for this
Doctor :   You need mutual consent to act on each other
Doctor :   you need to speak lovable
Doctor :   You need to understand each others interest
Doctor :   It is more of understanding
Doctor :   It is a psychological medicine
Doctor :   and you need to play with each other
Doctor :   rather willing to go for insertion as soon as possible
Doctor :   This shall make matter easy for both of you
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   boosts enough confidence in both of you that , yes I am going to perform
Doctor :   well
Doctor :   She should know that you like her to stimulate you
Doctor :   and keep talking to you
Doctor :   and caressing you
User :   but if i simulate my self and try to insert it is not going inside..
Doctor :   It obviously takes sometime
Doctor :   Lot of things are factors here
User :   thats why i thought my erection is not enough
Doctor :   first, her vulva is not prepared for the reception
Doctor :   of penis as this is the first time and it is tight
User :   oh ok doctor
Doctor :   and second there needs a lubrication
Doctor :   between you
Doctor :   You can use K- Y gel
User :   ok doctor
User :   where can i get that doctor
Doctor :   apply thin film
Doctor :   any medical shop
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   This is a lubricant
Doctor :   but natural lubricant is best
Doctor :   she should secrete lubricant herself
User :   ok doctor..
Doctor :   if you keep stimulating her ograns
Doctor :   and inserting the fingers firs
Doctor :   first
Doctor :   and rub against her private parts
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   when she starts feeling the eroticism
Doctor :   she gets the lubrication
Doctor :   and then you can start inserting
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   remember the penile organ is bigger than the vulva for the first 5 to 6 copulations
User :   the problem is i was a heavy drinker in the past. so i afraid my erection has problem
User :   and also i used tobacco chewing for a while
User :   when i masterbate it come really soon
Doctor :   ok
User :   these are all affecting my confidence
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   ok
User :   can u please tell me some medicince to overcome this problem..
Doctor :   the main cause for this is performance anxiety
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   which is usually seen in the beginning of the sexual life
Doctor :   it takes time for the sex life to happen
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   it takes time for you and your wife to get involved completely in the sexual act
Doctor :   Involve in more of foreplay
User :   ok doctor..
Doctor :   Spend more time with each other
Doctor :   get rid of anxiety
User :   I am only doing that.. she just enjoying those things.. and she is not doing those things for me. so i got bored soon.. is that normal doctor?
Doctor :   it is very normal
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   you need to talk with your wife regarding this
User :   sure doctor.
User :   Thank you so much for your kind answers
Doctor :   and ask hert cooperation also for the same
Doctor :   Is there any thing else I can help you with?
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done.
User :   sure doctor
User :   Doctor I have some question regarding my head pain, Can i go to other chat or can I ask you?
Doctor :   you can proceed with
Doctor :   since when you have headache
User :   for more than 2 years.. not everyday doctor.. but now it is happening almost 3 times a week
User :   backhead just above my neck
User :   after i woke up in the morning, I got this headache.. when I massage for sometime, it will vanish soon...
User :   then after sometime it is happening..
Doctor :   ok
User :   rightside backhead just above the neck
Doctor :   do you have cold, cough, fever
User :   no doctor
Doctor :   do you have any vision problems
Doctor :   like short sight, long sight
User :   yes doctor.. sometime back i took eyecheck up... they said it is -.75
Doctor :   are you using any spectacles
User :   they suggested a eye glass, but I didnt use that
User :   no doctor
Doctor :   the is the reason for your headache
Doctor :   you need to wear the spectacles
Doctor :   continously
User :   ok doctor..
Doctor :   what is your occuaption
User :   software engineer
Doctor :   so you work under computer for long time
User :   yes doctor
Doctor :   so there are more chances of you getting headache
Doctor :   due to eye strain
User :   oh ok doctor
Doctor :   i also advise you to sue antiglare spectacles
Doctor :   while working at computer
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   when was the last eye check up you underwent
User :   8 years back
Doctor :   i suggest you to get your eye examination done
User :   sure doctor
Doctor :   and then get your power checked up and you can go for the spectacles
User :   ok doctor
User :   doctor one more question
Doctor :   ok
User :   we are using rice AAAAAAA oil, my wife is putting lot of oil to prepare food. Iam really worrying it will affect my hearthealth.. since Iam sitting and working all day.. so there is no time to exercise also..
User :   is ricebran oil affect heart health?
Doctor :   you need to suggest your wife not to put too much oil
User :   ok doctor.
Doctor :   and to use sunflower oil for cooking
Doctor :   or olive oil
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   she can use teflon coated cooking wares for cooking
Doctor :   or non stick pans for cooking
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   include more of vegertables , fruitse, greens and salads in the diet
Doctor :   and involve in some exercises atleast 5 days a week
User :   ok doctor
Doctor :   do you have any more queries
User :   no doctor
User :   thank you
Doctor :   pplease fill the feed back form
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
User :   bye doctor
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