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Erectile dysfunction, Anal sex and bisexual nature - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Doctor :   hi
Doctor :   DR. XXXXXXXX here
Doctor :   please proceed with your health query
Doctor :   how can I help you?
User :   hi dr
User :   sexoligest?
Doctor :   I am a General Practitioner, I believe I can help you within my expertise and If required I shall recommend a specialist
User :   im XXXXXXXX 30 year old
Doctor :   ok
User :   i have been in livin relationship for 5 years
User :   i have almost lived a married life
User :   imean im as good as married guy
User :   my sexual life has been great
User :   but from past few months its not
Doctor :   ok. please describe what symptoms you are faced with
User :   first is i dont get full hard on
User :   premature ejaculation
User :   i dont know what to do
User :   in between i used to take tablets like penegra,manforce
Doctor :   ok, did these help you?
User :   but i get headache with those tablets
Doctor :   do you have underlying diabetes or hypertension(high BP)?
User :   no no not at all
User :   by God's grace im healhy i go gym regularly
Doctor :   ok. i will need to ask you few more questions to understand your problem better. shall I proceed?
User :   im well build
User :   sure
Doctor :   are you able to achieve an erection?
Doctor :   if yes, how long can you sustain the erection?
User :   im but not the way it used to be
User :   may be 2 min
User :   i find my p has become very weak
Doctor :   were you used to masturbation?
User :   yes i used to some times
User :   and im bisexual
Doctor :   if yes what was the frequency per week before and after starting sexual relation?
User :   i used to have every alternate day with my partner
Doctor :   do you experience night time erections (apart from sexual intercourse)?
User :   2-3 times in a night
User :   these days not realy
Doctor :   do you experience early morning erections (apart from sexual intercourse)?
User :   yes
Doctor :   are you having any stress in personal/work life?
User :   kind of
Doctor :   are you obsessed with thoughts about performance while going ahead with intercourse?
User :   as i mentiond im bisexul
User :   hope that has nothing to do with this
Doctor :   stress and pre-occupation of mind with other things during intercourse can affect it causing problems like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation
User :   earlier i used to fatasise about my partner but now i dont
Doctor :   no being bisexual has nothing to with this unless you experience any difference in your sexual experience in both
User :   but whenever i think of my male partner i get hard on
User :   is that ok?
Doctor :   focus on self relaxation and stress relief rather than getting pre-occupied with it
User :   ?
Doctor :   if you are experiencing no problems in erection with thinking of male partner, then it is your mind that has got sensitized to having satisfactory sexual experience with your male partner
Doctor :   it means that your preferences are changing
User :   kindly help
Doctor :   if you are able to get strong erection on thinking of male partner and the opposite when thinking of female partner.
User :   but ofcourse erection is not that strong
Doctor :   if you want to experience equal satisfaction in both, then your mind needs to be trained to getting satsfaction
Doctor :   this can be done after a counseling and careful examination to rule out any other underlying cause
Doctor :   the problems that you are faced with a re 90% of the time related to psychology as proven with research studies
User :   but can u prescribe some medicine forPE
Doctor :   so it can be cured with counseling and practice of techniques like 'start and stop technique'
User :   IS THERE any medicine which i can take b4
Doctor :   as you have said earlier that tablets like penegra,manforce have not helped you, it in unlikely that medication would help you
User :   intercourse
Doctor :   as there is difference in the erection status in both cases as reported by you
User :   so wht do u sugest dr?
Doctor :   you seem to have 'partner specific anxiety' which is hampering your sexual experience
Doctor :   you need to follow these steps
User :   go ahead
Doctor :   1) do not indulge in any sexual activity for a week with both
Doctor :   2) try to analyse in your mind what and whom you would give preference
Doctor :   3) try with fantasizing about both partners after a week and see if there are any differenced
Doctor :   4) Take Tab. Confido (from Himalaya) for 15 days after all theses exercises
User :   with my male partner i play a women role
Doctor :   when you have intercourse with your female partner
User :   he insertes mostly
Doctor :   5) avoid taking submissive part in active sex. be on superior part that is the male part to regain your confidence
User :   i also do
Doctor :   6) come back for a follow up with me over live chat after a month
Doctor :   after you follow my instructions strictly
Doctor :   what is the frequency of your intercourse with male partner and female partner per week?
User :   male partner is no more with me becz he lives abroad now
User :   but female is with me only
Doctor :   try to increase your frequency with female partner if you want to get married and lead a normal sexual life with her/or any other woman.
Doctor :   ok.
User :   yes i want to do that
Doctor :   then follow the steps as suggested above
User :   even recently i had sex with other girl, everything was perfect
Doctor :   avoid thoughts of male partner and your submissive role in the intercourse with him
User :   one more thing i want to share dr
User :   can i ?
Doctor :   ok. that means that you do not have any real problems
Doctor :   yes please proceed
User :   i like anal sex, but my partner doesnt allow me, so i had to go to other girl
Doctor :   not every woman likes it. it is personal preferences
User :   am excited to have anal sex
Doctor :   you have got used to the felling so you would prefer it
User :   is that the only tab
User :   i shud take
User :   ?
Doctor :   as I said avoid sexual contacts and thoughts completely for a week
User :   sure
Doctor :   and see what the outcomes are
Doctor :   and yes you have to take only that tablet
User :   is there any massage oil for personal parts
Doctor :   you can add up one more , a multivitamin tab: Tab AtoZ once daily
Doctor :   massage generally do not help in maintaining erection
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