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Difficulty in having sex - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Excellent Posted in: Men Sexual Problems
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Practicing since : 2004
Answered : 37 Questions
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :  
How can I help you?
User :   Hi i want assistance related to my sexual health
Doctor :   Sure

Doctor :  
Proceed with your query
User :   actually just got married, i am unable to have sex
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :  
May I know your age?
User :   35
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :   What is the problem as such?
User :   some time i have the power but it is not enough to have sex
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :  
I want to ask if you are ejaculating early
Doctor :   or anything related to erection?
User :   it is related to erection
Doctor :   Meaning

Doctor :  
you are not having sufficient erection
Doctor :  
for penetration
Doctor :  
Is that right?
User :   not getting say in other word
Doctor :   Penetration meaning putting your penis into the vagina

User :   yes u right
Doctor :   Were you sexually active before marriage?
User :   no
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :   When were you married?
User :   but some time i get erection fully during some morning hours
User :   last month
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :   Good observation
Doctor :  
It indicates your organ is functioning normally
Doctor :  
So no issues with that
User :   ok
Doctor :  
How many times have you had sex with your wife since last month?
User :   not had
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Attempts
User :   initially i made some attempts on that time she felt pain so left
User :   so we consulted her in doctor and see made some treatment to her
Doctor :   Ok

User :   and said her she can have now
Doctor :  
Fine
User :   but during these i am not able to do
User :   some time i have no erection
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
How is your sleep?
User :   it is fine
Doctor :   Good

Doctor :   How did you attempt?
Doctor :  
explain that
Doctor :  
if you dont mind
User :   but now day i feel mentally disturbed because of this
User :   sure
Doctor :   Ok

User :   i try started with kiss and wants to do penetration
Doctor :   Ok

User :   but no erection
User :   so give up
Doctor :   Why do you want to do penetration so early

User :   it mean
Doctor :   sex has 4 stages
Doctor :  
aExcitement or Arousal phase

b) Plateau phase ( peaks of arousal)

c) Orgasm

d) Resolution.
User :   ok
Doctor :  
first you need to get excited
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Do you try for excitation?
Doctor :   have you tried, I mean

User :   yes
Doctor :   How?

User :   on seeing and feeling like rubbing
Doctor :   Ok

User :   then i feel some erection
Doctor :   that is fine
Doctor :  
and then
User :   after other type of touch and kiss, mentally get ready for penetration
Doctor :   Ok

User :   but i get some more erection
Doctor :   and you are erect after these acts
Doctor :  
that is good
User :   but i am not able to do
User :   some time i think i fear it may not happen
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :  
Do you ejaculate?
Doctor :   after erection

User :   no
Doctor :   Ok

Doctor :  
You mean to say after excitation, you try for penetration
Doctor :   but the erection disappears
User :   yes
Doctor :   and becomes soft again

User :   yes
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   but before marriage during college day i used to have self sex with hand
User :   is this a problem
Doctor :   No

Doctor :  
Not at all
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Now I would suggest to ask your wife to rub your penis
Doctor :  
and that will get erect again
User :   ok
Doctor :  
engage more in foreplay
User :   ok
Doctor :  
it can be massaging your wife
Doctor :  
undressing her
Doctor :  
talking about sex
User :   ok
Doctor :  
kissing, licking,
Doctor :  
target your favourite areas
User :   ok
Doctor :  
It can be her face, breasts, thighs, hips and private parts as well
Doctor :  
do consider her points as well
User :   ok
Doctor :  
as she should also get satisfied
User :   ok
Doctor :  
hence if she feels good on massaging or other forms of handling in a particular area
Doctor :  
concentrate on that as well
Doctor :  
You would get sufficient erection with this
Doctor :  
engage more in foreplay
User :   ok
Doctor :   she will also enjoy foreplay

User :   now day i fear more because the relation will spoil because of this so getting sufficient concentration or interest in it
Doctor :   No fears

Doctor :  
You should overcome that
Doctor :  
and enjoy your sexual life
User :   ok
Doctor :  
May I know your height and weight?
User :   yes, weight 82 kg and hight 5.8"
Doctor :   Ok

User :   do i need to take any medicine
Doctor :  
No
Doctor :  
I would suggest you to try the methods I mentioned
User :   ok
Doctor :  
along with that, I shall recommend you to do brisk walking
Doctor :  
or any other exercise which you like
Doctor :  
can be jogging, swimming, etc.
Doctor :  
You can take your wife along with you
User :   ok
Doctor :  
for better results
Doctor :  
Also I will suggest you 1 tablet
User :   ok
User :   yes
Doctor :  
Take Supractiv 1 daily after breakfast
User :   ok
Doctor :  
Try all the methods
Doctor :  
i have said
Doctor :   foreplay, tablet and exercise to summarise
User :   it is for erection or health
Doctor :  
Erection and sexual health
Doctor :  
which ofcourse has an impact on your overall health as well
User :   ok, it should be taken in morning after breakfast
Doctor :  
If you find a problem
Doctor :  
even after following these
User :   ok
Doctor :  
I would suggest you to consult a Urologist/Andrologist/Sexologist
Doctor :   Sexologist meaning an Allopath who has done MBBS and not quacks

User :   ok, do u have any reference in
Doctor :   I can help you in that

User :   ok
User :   can i get their name now ?
Doctor :   Yes, I will search in our database
Doctor :  
Give me 2 mins
User :   sure
Doctor :  

Doctor :   Hyderabad - 0000
Doctor :   +(91)-(40)-0000, 0000, 0000, 0000
          +(91)-(40)-0000
Doctor :  
User :   ok, thank you
Doctor :   Have you filled the feedback form?
User :   yes it is done
User :   can i know your name
Doctor :  

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User :   thank you Dr
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approach us in that regard
User :   ok, i try ur methods and get back to u regarding this.
Doctor :   Sure

User :   bye
Doctor :   Are you back?
User :   yes just came to take the Dr address u have given to me
User :   from the chat history
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
You can view that in your chat history
Doctor :  
in your account
Doctor :  
need not login to chat
Doctor :  
Bye for now
User :   oh ok, thank you bye
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