Difficulty in erection due to stress. Trying for conception. Any help? - Online Doctor Chats
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I'm 37 yr old married male
Hiplease proceed with your query.
I'm planning to extend my family
and trying for it from the past few months
but somehow during her ovulution days i'm not able to intercourse
either facing erection failure or not getting the erection itself
could u plz suggest something
Ok. I need to know a little more details to guide you.
yes, plz ask
1. Have you done your sperm tests?
nope.. actually our doctor asked for it
but when i went to diagnostic centre ... i was not able to ejaculate thru masterbution
Do you get erection normally on other days?
Are you able to complete the sexual act without losing the erection?
not everytime we wont get orgasm
but most of the time we are able to complete it
Ok. Are you able to ejaculate normally, I mean not everytime?
That shows that you are not having an issue of impotency.
Be assured of that.
May I know your wife's age?
actually we already hav 5 yr one child
That is great.
in last yr during mar she got pregnant but had missed miscarage
Do you have any personal habit such as smoking?
actually we are so despirate to hav one more child n that pressure causing all this erction failure
Yes. That is exactly true I believe.
no smoking , and sometimes have alcohal
Ok. let me guide you.
like once in a mth
That is fine.
1. Always have a relaxed mind before going to bed.
2. Increase your foreplay duration before going to actual intercourse.
3. never take any daily stress to your bedroom.
actually we dont do much foreplay in the fear of losing erection if we delayed intercourse
4. Do not stress yourself into doing sex.
That fear is the cause for losing erection.
keep everything else out of mind.
And try not to concentrate on erection.
Instead enjoy every moment of the time yu are having together.
That is fine.
I would suggest you to have intercourse on alternate days.
yes... that itself put pressure on us... n we dont know how to handle it
Please do not worry.
like 10th day onwards we start intercourse on every alternate days
Just do not think that somehow, I need to get a kid.
Procreaton is a natural process.
It will happen.
so say 10th n 12th days we are able to intercourse properly
but 14th n 16th day we face erection failure
The thought in back of your mind that, this is more crucial time, gives you a pressure.
also during evolution some sticky liquid comes n i dont get any sensation
because its a one month cycle n we hav to wait another 1 month if we missed this
Yes. But then, do not rush into it. If you keep on doing the same mistake every month, you will have to wait for longer months.
So please relax yourself.
Make the environment such that it stimulates you for sex.
Both of you should be relaxed and enjoying the moment.
Instead of thinking that we should get it done this time, think that, we are going to have some nice time today.
Then have a light meal.
yes, we understand this but still that running back in our mind
Relax for some time.
And then start with foreplay.
Enjoy every moment of it.
Do not even keep a calendar of date.
One week after her periods stop, have sex every alternate days.
Do not count the days.
include plenty of fruits and vegetables in your diet.
Dates can help in improving the sexual health.
ok, any other natural suppliment to increase libido
I am sure, if you keep the calendar out of your mind, she will get pregnant again within next 2-3 months.
Honey is again another source to improve your sexual health.
Vitamin E thru medicine?
You can take synthetic supplements such as Evion capsules, or you can take natural supplements such as Parselenium E from Amway.
n wot will be the dosages?
You can take daily morning one capsule.
i was also thinking to take dabur 30+ tab.... will it be ok ?
I am not sure of its contents.
Hope I had been able to guide you regarding your concerns.
That is fine.
It is a nutritional supplement which helps in many metabolic activities.
have you followed my suggestions?
yes, very much
It is fine to have. But, that has to be taken under the guidance of your treting physician only.
actually i'm taking it by my own
please do consult your physician regarding that.
he will have to check your blood pressure and other vital signs to guide you better on the medication.
do i need to see a general physician or some specialist
Hope I had been able to guide you.
yes, just one more quees
doc, asked me to undergo sperm analysis
so can i carry the sample from home... n within how much time i hav to present it at the labs?
You need to give it immediately.
Otherwise the results may vary.
then last time i was not able to ejaculate thru masterbution
how to handle this?
Sperm analysis maybe required. But I do not think that you require that now.
You need to get a complete amount of your ejaculation for the analysis.
Then only a proper analytical report can be made.
then will giving sample after taking viagra will affect the results
Viagra does not affect the sperm values.
It just helps in the erection.
because its very embarassing to tell i dont hav sample to lab tech
I can feel the thoughts you are going through.
Just keep the analysis to be done on a later date.
build your confidence through the measures I have explained.
That should do the trick.
ok, n medicine wont help me in overcome this fear of failure?
It is not a disease.
So you do not need any medication.
n will blood pressure also affects the erection?
You can post a query regarding the same to a psychiatrist on our website. He will give you techniques about how to relieve your mind about this fear.
Blood pressure usually does not affect the erection.
ok...n i can also consult the urologist thru this website... as personally going to see will be little embarasing
So remember to throw the calendar out of your window.
That would be fine. But make it two different queries, and make the difference in the queries itself.
can i get them on chat also?
No. Specialists will not be there on chat. They only answer online.
You can relax your mind and discuss the problems.
ok, so just to sum up wot u suggested...
1. Do not worry.
2. Throw the calendar out.
3. Enjoy the sex.
4. Foreplay is important.
5. Vit E, Dates and honey would help.
6. Post your queries to Urologist and a Psychiatrist.
7. Include lots of fresh fruits and vegetables in your diet.
Have you followed all these suggestions?
Yes, doctor i'll follow ur advice and can i get u on chat again to share the improvement?
Sure. You can ask for once you login and find any other doctors on chat.
Hope I had been able to help you.
ok.. n is this chat history is saved for future reference?
yes definately feeling much better after discussing the problems :)
It is saved.
Do not worry.
We are here to help you.
Thanks for consulting me.
Have a nice time.
good night ....bye
Enjoy your time.
Bye for now.
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