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Depression of a 32 aged person - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   Hi doctor, i am feeling very depressed due to pressure from my family
User :   pls help
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   I can help you
Doctor :   Can you explain me elaborately
Doctor :   what are you symptoms
User :   well basically i am 32 yrs old & unmarried. there is pressure to just get married asap
User :   i feel like running away from the house
Doctor :   Ok do you mean that you are not interested in marriage
User :   i am unable to eat well & get sleepless nights
Doctor :   ok
User :   no, i am ok with getting married...but havent found the right match yet
User :   but this pressure is killing
Doctor :   Ok did you discuss this with your family?
User :   yes, but they are very orthodox & wont understand
Doctor :   ok
User :   i have a younger sister who is to get married by Oct this yr. she is 28 yrs
Doctor :   Ok
User :   its a love marriage for her & that cant wait
Doctor :   Ok did you give way for her marriage by your consent
User :   thats her life & shouldnt wait for me
Doctor :   Did you say the same thing to your family members
User :   yes, a hundred times
Doctor :   and what was their response
User :   its a societal pressure since i am the elder one
User :   everyone during the wedding will ask, incl. my sister's in-laws
Doctor :   See not everyone in other families will be as orthodox as in your family
Doctor :   even if the truth is revealed that really does not postpone your sisters wedding
Doctor :   Now a days no one has time to think of other person's personal life, saying so and so person has not married yet but his younger sister has got married
User :   yes, but the pressure is on me
User :   i hate the daily blabber & arguments
Doctor :   Ok so are you bothered about the other people comments
User :   people think i have a problem
Doctor :   or are you not feeling with this pressure
User :   i am more stressed bcos of my family, than the people outside
Doctor :   If the trigger factor for your stress is with yur family
Doctor :   then you have sit with them for any number of times
Doctor :   to console them
Doctor :   and tell your ideas
Doctor :   and what is your next action plan
Doctor :   at the same time
User :   what should i tell them?
Doctor :   you have to indicate them that you are trying
Doctor :   and interested in marriage
Doctor :   and trying to meet girls
Doctor :   who are compatible
Doctor :   to you
Doctor :   Show some signs of interest in marriage
Doctor :   by meeting girls
Doctor :   and then explaining about each of them to your family members
Doctor :   They too feel good that you are also giving all your efforts
Doctor :   to meet someone
Doctor :   whom you can stay happy with forever
Doctor :   DId you understand?
User :   ok
User :   i will try
Doctor :   Also try to understand
Doctor :   their compulsions from their
Doctor :   end
Doctor :   They wish you to be happy after all
Doctor :   Try to explain them how important is marriage
User :   yes am sure
Doctor :   for you and how good is it
Doctor :   to get a good girl who is understandable
Doctor :   and take care of your parents
User :   yes ok i will try doing that
User :   thanks
Doctor :   Unless you show various
Doctor :   signs of interest you cannot make your parents happy
Doctor :   and they will not have temper tantrums
User :   right
Doctor :   and thus reduces the pressure on you
User :   i hope so
Doctor :   Now you explain
Doctor :   your parents what kind of girl you want
Doctor :   whether it is nature and charecter, beauty or qualification
Doctor :   etc
Doctor :   so that your parents will help in finding one
Doctor :   Try to engage them and give leads to them
Doctor :   in finding right match
User :   i have dont that before, but maybe i will do it again
Doctor :   Do not worry
User :   done
User :   ok
Doctor :   It is a matter of pressure only till your wedding
Doctor :   Then they wont press you and you will be happy ever after as you were
User :   :-)
Doctor :   Ok, if you have some difficulties coping up
Doctor :   with the pressure you can always chat with me here
Doctor :   I can give you tips
Doctor :   Ok?
User :   thanks, may I know your name Doctor?
Doctor :   Dr.Mazumdar
User :   ok, thank you very much
Doctor :   Is there anything else I can help you
Doctor :   now
User :   i will chat with you again if i need help
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form now and say done.
User :   how will i know it is you?
Doctor :   You can ask my name whenever you come on chat
Doctor :   It it is me I shall respond
Doctor :   Ok
User :   ok, thanks
User :   bye
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting HealthcareMagic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.

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