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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   hi
User :   hi
Doctor :   How can I help you
User :   i have a problem
Doctor :   Please tell me
User :   do u deal with mental related problems
Doctor :   For Administrative and health purposes, Please provide these details of the patient-Age: Gender: Occupation: Location: Marital Status: Weight and Height: Dependents: Yes/ No.
Doctor :   I am a General Practitioner, I believe I can help you within my expertise and If required I shall recommend a specialist.
User :   Age: 26, Gender: Male, Loc:, Maritial Status: Single, Weight: 48 kg, Height: 170 cm
Doctor :   Please proceed with your medical Query
User :   But should i tell u my history or should i tell u my present condition?
Doctor :   Which ever you want to start with please go ahead
User :   ok
User :   its a history of 10 yrs
User :   when i was in 13 ys in 1994, i fell in love with a girl
User :   but she left me after 2 yrs
Doctor :   ok
User :   so i became depressed
Doctor :   ok
User :   and i used to say alone all the time
Doctor :   ok
User :   i lost intesent in everything
Doctor :   ok
User :   thats why i developed my interest in computers
Doctor :   ok
User :   so that i could forget her
User :   and my lifestyle was completely abnormal
Doctor :   what is the problem now?
User :   i will tell
Doctor :   sure
User :   then i only used to sat at home and read computer books n watch TV
User :   thats what i only used to do except going to school
Doctor :   ok
User :   i left all my friends
User :   then what happened one day
Doctor :   what happened?
User :   I was watching TV
Doctor :   ok
User :   and in a TV commercial I saw a girl
Doctor :   can you please come to the point quickly, we have many patients in the queue
User :   it was the Ad of the BSA LadyBird
User :   sure
User :   then i fell in love with that girl
Doctor :   ok
User :   but she was not with me
User :   and i had a desire to meet
User :   so suddenly one day
User :   when i was lying on my bed
User :   i saw her by my side
User :   and she started talking to me
User :   and from that time i am having a realtion with her
User :   i know that she could be my imagination
Doctor :   ok
User :   but now i m in deeply in love with her
User :   but as she is not real, its bothering me
Doctor :   but this is still your imagination
User :   i feel alwayz depressed because of that
Doctor :   i suggest that you socialize a bit and make new friends
User :   whatever but as she talks and acts like a real girl, i can't resist her
User :   my emotions r packed with her
User :   and thats why whenver i se a girl like her i want to talk
Doctor :   have you considered seeing a counsellor regarding this?
User :   and i can't adjust with any other girl emotionally
User :   i have visited many psycraitist for my depression
Doctor :   ok
User :   i was also under treatment
User :   but my thinking and emotions have not changed
Doctor :   did you explain your problem to the psychiatrist?
User :   not exactly about this
User :   but only about my depression
Doctor :   do you have any underlying family problem?
User :   ya my mother is also mentally ill
Doctor :   what is theillness?
Doctor :   of your mother?
User :   and my father is not having a good relation with her
User :   she has anxiety disorder
User :   and sleeping disorder
Doctor :   ok
User :   i m the only child
Doctor :   ok
User :   last night i cried a lot
Doctor :   ok
User :   thinking that what i have done to my life
User :   i have wasted 10 yrs only waiting for someone
Doctor :   first you should understand the distinction between fantasy and reality
User :   i understand doctor and i am also educated
Doctor :   you have not wasted your life as you are working now
User :   i m doing my masters in MCA
Doctor :   and you are educated
Doctor :   yes
User :   but i don't know whyy i can't avoid my emotions
Doctor :   also you should not hold yourself responsible for your family member's problems
User :   why i love this girl so much
User :   i try to get rid of her but when i do that i feel sad too
Doctor :   this is an expression of underlying emotional needs
Doctor :   i suggest that you try and move on and get a real girl friend
Doctor :   i know its difficult but you can always try
User :   i think that its my gene that is doing all this and thats why i m helpless
Doctor :   these conditions are not hereditary
User :   because she has got a nature that i can't find any other girl
Doctor :   they are due to maladjustment to your surrounding environment
User :   its something like a Dog and cat thing
Doctor :   she has not got a nature
Doctor :   the nature is what you want
User :   A Dog hats Cat for no reason
Doctor :   dogs dont hate cats
User :   nature means the characters
Doctor :   i understand
User :   if Dog doesn't hate cats then why they chase them?
Doctor :   that has been created by you
User :   but why i can't have any controll over this?
User :   her face appear to me
User :   she gives me a look as if she loves me
User :   but the strange think is that i haven't met her
Doctor :   ok
User :   can u explain what is happening to me?
User :   because i am very scared
User :   i don't want a life like this
Doctor :   there is nothing to be scared about
Doctor :   firstly you should understand your situation
User :   then how do i forget her?
Doctor :   you have created this character because you wanted to avoid the emotional burden you were facing in childhood
User :   and you know i tried to make girlfriends too
User :   but i could able to make girlfriends either
User :   and now i m 26
User :   what will happen to me?
Doctor :   are you reading what i am typing?
User :   what emotional burden?
User :   ok whatever but i want to ask u something
Doctor :   ok
User :   if u love someone badly and then if she dies then will u able to forget her?
Doctor :   you said you had issues at home, your mother's ill health and the problems between your parents
User :   my mother was fine 10 yrs back
User :   she became like this from 5 yrs
Doctor :   love is not something that happens with a person you see on tv
Doctor :   also you should be able to make out the distinction between infatuation and love
User :   ya but why only her? i been watching TV for many year
Doctor :   its an infatuation
Doctor :   a crush
Doctor :   everyone has them
Doctor :   its not abnormal
Doctor :   thats why film stars have so many fans
Doctor :   its natural
User :   but then why i am having a imagination of her
Doctor :   only thing is you should learn to distinguish between crushes and true love
User :   she talks to me
Doctor :   then i suggest that you see a counsellor
Doctor :   talk to him
Doctor :   about your problem in detail
Doctor :   and take behaviour therapy
User :   and do u think a counsellor can really get me out of this?
User :   i have done a behaviour therapy
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   you need to consistently follow it
User :   from a spycologist
User :   nothing is worng with my behavour
User :   see doctor i understand what ur tell me but what r my chances of getting out of this?
Doctor :   imagining people is a behaviour problem
User :   because logic and emotion are 2 different things
Doctor :   ok
User :   even i m thinking logically that she is just an imagination by emotions will not change
Doctor :   Since we are not being able to any where in this conversation we would recommend you to get to the
User :   by the way i don't imagine people like that
User :   i am only seeing her
Doctor :   Psychiatrist or the counselor who will be able to help you better
User :   ok fine
User :   but what are the changes?
User :   i mean chances of cure?
User :   by the way is there any mental problem like what i hav having?
Doctor :   Yes it can certainly be treated and just that you need a counseling cession
Doctor :   No i do not think so but you will need to meet them
User :   i already spent 5 yrs doing my mental cure for my depression
Doctor :   Please fill the feedback form say done when done while I type the information you needed.
User :   i changed many doctors
Doctor :   I do not think your havinbg any depression
User :   but this time i will only go to a doctor who is sure about my problem
User :   if i m not having any depressiin then why my EEG report says i hav?
Doctor :   but then unless your going to tell him how will he come to know
User :   ok then i want to vist the world's best psychiarist
Doctor :   At that moment it might have caught that but you will need counsellor more than any thing else
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Doctor :   Are you there ?
User :   ok and how long they have been practicing all this?
Doctor :   He has been My Professor
User :   i heard that NIMHANS?
User :   is also good
Doctor :   Yes it is good but then if your willing to wait for the appointment time it shall be good
Doctor :   certainly it is the best institute
Doctor :   Is there any thing else that I could help you with?
User :   lastly i want to ask u something...
Doctor :   Please do
User :   Do u think they will able to help me?
Doctor :   Certainly they will be able to .
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting Health care magic. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service
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