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Date : 21-Feb-2012
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Practicing since : 2009
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User :   Hi,I need psychiatry to answer my queries about problems facing in marriage                                                                                                    
Doctor :   Hi
User :   hi doctor
Doctor :   I am Dr.
Doctor :   Please proceed with your query I can help you which professional do you need to speak
User :   .am in love with my colleague who is 9 yrs older to me.
User :   His family accepts our love and ready for marriage.but my family denies because of caste,status
Doctor :   ok
User :   I have younger bro and sister studying
User :   they forcing me to marry other guy chosen by them.
User :   what should I do now?
User :   am worrying if I marry my lover ,it will affect my sister,brother life
User :   my family wont accept for love marriage
User :   Please suggest me what should i do now?
Doctor :   I suggest you to consider speaking to your parents and your boy friends in common along with you both of you
Doctor :   I suggest not to intervene a third party conversation
User :   But my parents wont accept even to meet him.they are from village and conservative family
User :   I told parents to meet my lover and if they are ok with guy,I will marry else I will not marry
User :   they are saying we wont come with your have to come in our way.we cann accept this
Doctor :   That is a better statement you have made it
Doctor :   I think you just have to convince them to meet him once and then decide
User :   we both are trying to get parents approval.but my side they are not approving.they told we wont accept
Doctor :   Say that I wont be happy my entire life for the mistake you do
User :   cause it will affect sister,brother life
User :   they are threatening
User :   they threaten that either u die or we die
User :   if you run with that guy also,we will not leave you.we will kill you
User :   my lover is ready to have marriage on our own.but am worrying about my sister life a lot
Doctor :   Do you have an option that you guyz marry after her marriage?
User : I am eldest and living in town,this is not possible
Doctor :   Did you say that you will not be happy all your life and keep blaming your parents marrying an unknown ?
User :   i told them anyhow its going to be my life.whatever I am going to face it.but they are not to listen my words.
User :   my dad scold me using bad words, really frustrated with family
User :   they told you can change your mind
User :   and live a life with guy we chise
Doctor :   It's your decision of course, but most people in the world marry the person they love. If you want to marry your bf, you can do it. If your parents and family don't like it, well that's their problem.
Doctor :   You have to prepare yourself mentally for their reactions, up to and including ostracizing you.
Doctor :   If they do this, you can point out to them that they really didn't love you in the first place. I think it really is
Doctor :   Now a days- no one has time to blame another family about their wrongs.
Doctor :   Is it not?
Doctor :   It may happen for sometime in village
User :   yes it is for city .but as we are living in village,town,people are keenly watching others life
Doctor :   but time shall disappear
User :   my plan is stop alliance they chose as I already stopped 1st alliance. 2.go with my lover.
Doctor :   It would be very hard to get past the family issues, but the choice really is yours to make.
Doctor :   Your life is yours if you choose to be strong and follow your heart and be successful and have kids by this guy.
Doctor :   As part of your responsibilty you keep an eye about your sister's and brother too
Doctor :   Keep in touch with them about what is happening
Doctor :   help them in monetary favors
Doctor :   Help them achieve their goals
User :   my brother is ok with guy whom i chose as he have seen him.
User :   and my fathere threatens that he will die if i do anything wrong
Doctor :   Did your brother and sister give their voice to your father
Doctor :   that your boy friend is good
Doctor :   Since how many months this is happening
User : family is father domainted
User :   for past 1 month
User :   even we raise,he wont accept our words
Doctor :   Ok why do you want to deal with this subject as soon and finish it off
Doctor :   Buy some time from your parents
User :   I am 27 yrs old my family rush to finish my marriage asap
User :   as they need to do marriage for sister and brother in few yrs
User :   my lover is 36yrs old now
User :   so we need to settle down soon.
Doctor :   Can you not bargain for some more months
Doctor :   and delay the process
Doctor :   Let the notions settle down
Doctor :   and atmosphere is cool
User :   they started looking for other alliances.looking
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   So you say that you have no time to lose\
Doctor :   or wait
Doctor :   You have to make a hasty decision
Doctor :   I think you are matured woman now
Doctor :   You can take a decision of yours and get out of it
Doctor :   Speak to your brother and sister about it so that atleast they come back to you after the marriage
Doctor :   You shoiuld have good terms atleast with them
User :   ok
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User :   Hi
User :   hi
User :   I'm Dr.
User :   I need a suggestion to solve my marriage problem.My family denying in marrying my lover who is from different caste.
User :   Ok
User :   am worrying because of my younger sister,brother life will get affected
User :   None in family ready to listen my words and told we wont accept your love.
User :   you have to marry guy whom we chose for you
User :   Ok
User :   we cann face our relatives,friends.and think about sister and brother life
User :   how will they be married
User :   Shall i recommend in psychiatrist to solve your problem?
User :   sure
User :   Ok
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User :   No doctor.Thanks for your patience and availability and helping me in solving issue.
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