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Counseling to revive trust - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   How are you feeling now?
Doctor :   Thought about what I told you?
Doctor :   About meeting people?
User :   well im drinking beer it took a while it was infront of me for half anhour and i just opened it
Doctor :   ok
Doctor :   Thats ok
Doctor :   Just cut down on it for now thats all.
User :   meeting people is really hard around here, like i said its hard to trust
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   But still you trusted me.
Doctor :   Do you go out for walks?
User :   yes and im very spised because i really do trust you
Doctor :   Yes
User :   i go to the bach with my dog
Doctor :   Ok
User :   beach
Doctor :   Have you tried talking to anyone out there?
User :   i go at night so noones there
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Tomorrow go out during the evening.
Doctor :   When you are sober with your dogs.
Doctor :   Let us see what will happen.
User :   i never been to the beach sober, thats where i go to remember my uncle
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Just think about trying it tomorrow.
User :   i'll try
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Thats my girl.
User :   trust is a big thing to me thats why i havent had a relationship since my uncle died
Doctor :   yes I understand.
Doctor :   But trust is found at the most unlikely places.
Doctor :   Do you know that some say that faith is greater than God?
Doctor :   Think about it.
User :   anything is greater than god at the moment
Doctor :   No.
Doctor :   Thats not true but lets not go into all that now.
Doctor :   So tell me.
Doctor :   What do you want to talk about now?
Doctor :   Just tell me anything.
User :   when i lived with my parents there was none stop arguments they split up when i was 10, my mum was then going through depression and thats why i think im like i am
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   That must have been very painful.
Doctor :   How was your Dad like?
User :   seems i was very much a daddys girl
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   How come you never stayed with your Dad? Why were you living with your Mom?
User :   i was the youngest of 3 children so he always spoilt me, he was loving caring and he was always there until then, suddenly he wasnt there to love me
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Where does he live now?
User :   i havent seen him since i dont know where he lives
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   when i was younger it was phone calls on my birthday until i was 15
Doctor :   Ok
User :   my mum didnt have anything against him apart from she didnt love him but she always wanted us to love our dad and get to know him but he couldnt have anything to do with usas he still loved her
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   You have two elder siblings. Where do they stay?
User :   they live the family which dislikes me and 1 brother is disabled so he doesnt really no what happend
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Do they know where your father is? Is there any way you can find out where your father is?
User :   i donnt want to speak to them ever again
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I understand.
Doctor :   But is there any way to find out where your father is?
User :   i can live without him, if he wanted to find me he would of by now
Doctor :   I am not asking you to live with him, but do you know where he is?
User :   no
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I was just wondering that your father must be going through the same thing that you are going through as your mum passed away recently.
User :   its been 9 years since he left so i couldnt tell you , he's probly moved on with kids of his own
Doctor :   Yes, it could be.
Doctor :   Why do your mother's family dislike you so much?
User :   my uncle did something they hated and kicked him out there home so i left too .
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I understand.
Doctor :   Where does your brother stay, the one who is disabled?
User :   i dont know now i think me probly in a home noing my mum
User :   she was never responable for us
Doctor :   Have you tried to find out and visit your brother?
User :   he'd be better off wihout me he's got my other brother
Doctor :   Ok, but still it must be hard on your other brother to take care of him alone.
User :   im sure he has the rest of the family
Doctor :   Who are the rest of the family?
User :   i cant ven bring my self to go there
Doctor :   You would be more family to him than anyone isnt it?
Doctor :  
Have you thought about visiting your brother?
Doctor :   Just find out where he is? May be visit him? Take some chocolates along.
User :   he really doesnt need me he probly havent even heard of me
Doctor :   Have you thought about that?
Doctor :   How do you know?
Doctor :   For all you know they could be treating him horribly
User :   he really doesnt need me
Doctor :   May be you could check on him once, just an idea.
User :   they wouldnt he was always the favirote
Doctor :   As usual think about it.
Doctor :   Ok
User :   my dad and uncle was the only ones who really wanted to look after me right
User :   well my dad while it lasted
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   I understand.
Doctor :   That was in the past when you were a kid.
Doctor :   But just think for a moment
Doctor :   do you need taking care of now?
User :   you really want me to answer that?
Doctor :   You have been taking care of yourself all these years.
Doctor :   Havent you?
Doctor :   And apart from depression I dont see anything wrong with you.
User :   yes i have i no im better of with out them all
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   more like anger managment
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Tell me, why do you get angry?
User :   thinking what my family did to me really, my life has been rubbish from the word go
Doctor :   Why do you think your life is rubbish?
Doctor :   As I told you I find nothing rubbish there.
Doctor :   Just some troubles but even then no rubbish.
Doctor :   What did you want your life to be like?
User :   it all is rubbish if i didnt think it would why would i be wanting to overdose?
Doctor :   Everyone feels that way at some point of the time or the other.
User :   my family used to be close upbringig was ok i wanted to be loved i guess but i never did
Doctor :   Do you think all those walking around you looking so happy never ever wanted to kill themselves?
Doctor :   Ok, I understand
User :   im passed wanting to kill myself
Doctor :   But why do you think they never loved you?
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Good.
Doctor :   I am really glad to hear that.
User :   i couldnt care less if someone stabbed me tonight i would laugh in there face
Doctor :   That you finally got over the killing thing.
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Well interesting way of putting it
Doctor :   Anyways, how can you say they never loved you? May be they did and were just upset with you for siding with your uncle.
Doctor :   Just a thought.
User :   they told me the day i walk out that door i will lose my family and i did
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   and i deserved it
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   So you feel that it was your fault.
User :   no it wasnt but i dont care
Doctor :   Another thought, have you ever thought of walking up to them looking into their eyes and say sorry?
User :   i wouldnt do that i havent got anything to say sorry for
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   But you were telling that you deserved losing your family?
User :   i did and im glade i did
Doctor :   Ok.
Doctor :   Dont you love them?
User :   no
Doctor :   You dont have to answer me
Doctor :   just think
User :   i can answer you because i dont love them
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Enough about your family.
User :   i have noyhing incommen with them
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Last thought, do you think all families stay together because they have everything common between them?
User :   i dont have anything incommen with any of them to me i have no family
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Dont think about yourself
Doctor :   this question is in general
Doctor :   Just a thought, just think about it thats all.
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Enough about all this. Tell me something else?
Doctor :   Anything.
User :   this is to much family stuff can we talk abpout somthing else im going to have to thump awall else
User :   i can feelmy blood boiling thats all
User :   im glad you asked me those quetions
User :   i calmed myself down so dont worry
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   Good
Doctor :   You need to get the anger out.
Doctor :   Anger is good.
Doctor :   It helps you build yourself.
Doctor :   So tell me
Doctor :   what else do you want to talk about?
User :   anything apart frm family they make my blood boil
Doctor :   Sure
Doctor :   tell me anything.
Doctor :   Have you thought about dating anyone recently?
User :   i've tried i cant trust them, my first and last lasted a year and he broke my trust
User :   and it just dont work out
Doctor :   Ok.
User :   all they want is one thing
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   How old was the guy?
User :   3 years older than me
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   When was this?
Doctor :   When did this happen?
User :   about a month ago
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   Sorry about that
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