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Can we get into intercourse if we are in a relation ? - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 07-Jun-2013
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Doctor:This is Dr XXXXXXX
User:hello XXXXXXX here
Doctor:How are you?
User:fine mam
User:can i know more about specialisdation
Doctor:I am a general physician
Doctor:But I am sure I'll be able to help
Doctor:Please let me know your concern
User:mam i ma in relation with a boy
User:mam he is wanting us to come close
User:mam r u there
Doctor:I am here
Doctor:I am waiting for you to finish
User:is it right mam
Doctor:How old are you AAAA?
Doctor:Is this a committed relationship?
Doctor:or you're not sure whether you would want to spend your life with him?
Doctor:I cant understand
Doctor:You're not sure?
User:i mean yes i want to
Doctor:and do your parents/his parents know?
Doctor:when do you plan to get married?
User:just little that we are frinds
Doctor:if you're not getting married in the next 6 months to 1 year, I would suggest that you stay away from anything that can tear you apart emotionally
User:i donot know much about boys behaviours
Doctor:do you want to talk on the phone?
Doctor:It'll be better
User:so i have developed lot of questions
Doctor:we can call you
User:not possible to talk
Doctor:so what are your questions
User:i have heard that boys have some wrong habits before marriage
Doctor:If you're talking about masturbation, its perfectly normal
User:whts that
Doctor:when boys/girls stimulate themselves to achieve an orgasm
Doctor:This is a normal desire and a healthy expression of your sexuality
Doctor:what other wrong habits are you talking about?
User:my bf often touches his thing
Doctor:Thats normal
Doctor:That is masturbation
Doctor:and there is nothing wrong in it
User:is it a gud thing
Doctor:thats a subjective thing
Doctor:What I can say is its normal
Doctor:at this age
Doctor:having sexual desires is normal
User:i have a lot from my frnds
Doctor:I didnt understand that
User:i have heard a lot of adult things from my frnds
User:have not tried
User:but have doubts
Doctor:You can try it
User:like wht all is fine
Doctor:As long as you're not having unprotected sexual intercourse or doing drugs
Doctor:its fine
Doctor:what all things are you talking about
Doctor:there's a huge list
User:i have heard that guys like un natural stuff
Doctor:like what
User:mam u only tell
User:i donot have much knowledge
Doctor:Having a fetish for something or trying new postures is normal
Doctor:What you should be doing XXXXXXX is reading up some book on sexual health
User:have heard that guys like un natural stuff
Doctor:you will have to elaborate on that
Doctor:Somethings like having sexual intercourse with animals etc is abnormal
Doctor:But there are a lot of things which are normal as well
User:mam like putting it in the back
Doctor:and its impossible to give you a whole list
Doctor:Thats normal
Doctor:Its called anal intercourse
Doctor:You need to be slightly careful because it can cause injuries
Doctor:But apart from that
Doctor:its fine
User:mam is it practically possible
User:i sometimes doubt it
Doctor:you can google it
Doctor:its called anal intercourse
User:i tried little seach some time ago , but was surprised on seeing the mans thing
User:so i am in lot of doubt
Doctor:dont be
Doctor:You can take my word for it
User:how can such a big thing go mam
User:its scary
Doctor:Its not that big
Doctor:its about 4-5"
Doctor:the ones you see online
Doctor:they're just morphed pictures
User:you are right mama
User:i have not seen my bf's
User:but once i just got a glimpse
Doctor:I dont think you need to get scared XXXXXXX
User:when he was urinating
Doctor:but its important that you're aware
Doctor:please read up some sex education material online
Doctor:as far as intercourse is concerned, make sure you use a condom if you decide to have intercourse
Doctor:it will not only protect you from pregnancy but also from several sexually transmitted diseases
User:but my bf's thing scares me sometimes
Doctor:as I said
Doctor:Maybe you're not ready for it yet
Doctor:You need to give yourself time
Doctor:say No
Doctor:you can always have sexual intercourse after marriage
User:mam i was not all ready earlier
User:but from last months i donot why some acts of sex have brought interest in me
Doctor:but it doesnt seem you're ready now
Doctor:that is normal XXXXXXX
Doctor:sexual attraction is normal
Doctor:but that doesnt mean you try everything
Doctor:before you are old enough or you know enough about it
User:sometimes my bf asks me to touch his area
Doctor:This is a part of the relationship XXXXXXX
Doctor:But you should know where to draw the line
User:mam i say no , but he convicesme
Doctor:Put your foot down XXXXXXX
Doctor:If he loves you
Doctor:he will wait
User:i know mam
User:but mam i shud confess , i say no to him , but back of the mind i have all dirty things running in my mind
Doctor:Thats fine
Doctor:But are you ready?
Doctor:ask yourself that
User:mam i am curious regarding oral i donot know why
Doctor:these are individual preferences XXXXXXX
User:do all women prefer it mam
Doctor:Do all women wear the same clothes?
Doctor:Then how can all women have the same sexual desires?
User:not at all mam
Doctor:to each his own
Doctor:its not abnormal
User:but as doctor and as woman u have to tell me
Doctor:some women do prefer it
User:if you were in my place
Doctor:I would say No
Doctor:Its an emotional committment XXXXXXX
Doctor:Its a different thing for us
Doctor:We run the risk of getting pregnant
Doctor:God forbid, the relationship doesnt work out
Doctor:what will you do
Doctor:When you get married
Doctor:you will feel as if you've cheated on your husband
Doctor:so if this guy really loves you
Doctor:he will and he should wait
Doctor:if he's just looking for sexual intercourse
User:mam if you were in my place and u dibdonot want to get pregnant , u wud have said no for oral sex also
User:its safe na ???
Doctor:there are some case reports of pregnancy with oral sexual intercourse
Doctor:Its not
User:oh gosh
Doctor:He needs to use a condoms
Doctor:thats not negotiable
User:in oral also
User:ok mam
Doctor:Is there any other question that you have?
Doctor:are you there?
User:mam sry my bro came
Doctor:no problem
Doctor:go ahead
User:he is gone now
User:some times i wonder if my brother also thinks such crap
Doctor:he must be thinking
Doctor:and its unlikely he'll share it with you
User:he is my bro mam
User:i some times notice some weird things
User:but not sure
Doctor:try and elaborate
User:mam i shuld talk about my bro like this but honestly i have noticed
User:i mean i shuld not
Doctor:its fine
Doctor:he's a guy too remember
Doctor:he is your brother
Doctor:but he's still a guy first
User:some times i feel that he is a lot spoilt than he looks
Doctor:how old is he
Doctor:thats the age when adolescents start exploring
Doctor:so instead of judging them as good or bad
User:mam i have a noticed weird things
Doctor:you should be looking at having a friendly relationship with him
Doctor:Like what
User:so i feel like that
User:mam i donot know ur age
User:so i donot if u have come across such situation
User:in ur house
Doctor:i have younger siblings
Doctor:so tell me your concern
User:bro or sis
User:no brother
User:lucky one u r
User:is ur sis younger
User:to u
User:may be elder than my bro
User:i was frindly with my bro when we were small
User:but little frindly now
Doctor:its a part of growing up XXXXXXX
Doctor:You would need to put in more effort and be a little more understanding
Doctor:he needs a friend and you can be one
User:mam i used to think he is a gud boy , but now i realise he is very spoilt
Doctor:dont judge him
Doctor:when you say spoilt what does it mean
User:mam i have noticed weird things
Doctor:thats what I said
Doctor:it doesnt make him a bad person
Doctor:its normal at this age
Doctor:you have to make sure that he is doing the right thing
Doctor:for that
Doctor:you need to be his friend
User:still when i know he does bad things
Doctor:he will tell you on his own if you're his friend
User:mam he does cheap things which he will never tell
Doctor:so there's nothing wrong in those so called cheap things
Doctor:like its normal for you, your boyfriend
Doctor:its normal for him
Doctor:do you understand?
User:my bf is grown up
User:he is just 16
Doctor:You will understand with time
Doctor:you need to grow up too XXXXXXX
User:u are saying wht ever he is doing is right
Doctor:I am saying its normal
Doctor:Right/wrong is a matter of judgement
User:all the cheap things also
Doctor:Its a normal part of growing up
Doctor:What cheap things ?
Doctor:I think you need to stop judging him
User:mam u wont beilve , wht i swa
Doctor:if you saw him masturbating thats normal
Doctor:If he was seeing cheap movies thats normal
Doctor:what else
User:mam i saw him make all news papers dirty
User:when i was selling them to the kabadi wala then i noticed
Doctor:is that such a big deal?
User:all the papers were sticky
User:and there were pathes
Doctor:so he must have been masturbating
Doctor:thats normal
User:in the newspaper ???
Doctor:he could have used it too clean up?
Doctor:thats possible
Doctor: XXXXXXX this is an endless argument
Doctor:I think you need to take away from here
Doctor:that you need to read up a little
Doctor:and learn to say No if you're not ready
Doctor:as far as your brother is concerned
Doctor:be a friend
Doctor:I hope you realise that
Doctor:do you follow?
User:trying mam
Doctor:Is there anything else I can clarify?
User:no no mam
User:was just thinkng about my bro
User:thats it
Doctor:Its fine XXXXXXX
Doctor:It will take some time
Doctor:Thats it then
Doctor:I hope I did address your concerns
Doctor:Have a good day ahead
User:ok mam
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