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Calendar method of contraception and safe sex - Online Doctor Chats

Date : 21-Feb-2012
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User :   hi
User :   hello
Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :   How can I help you?
User :   we want to have sex
Doctor :   OK
User :   and at the same time we don't want kids at the moment
User :   without taking pills is there any way to have intercourse
Doctor :   Then you are looking for help in deciding contraceptives?
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   there is
User :   wouldn't prefer to take contraceptive..
User :   aah ok
Doctor :   Contraceptives are designed to reduce the risk of conceiving to a very negligible number
User :   after seeing the side effects of pills/contraceptive.. wouldn't like to try them
Doctor :   The methods to have intercourse without conceiving & without the use of contraceptives have a high risk
User :   risks like
Doctor :   Pills are not the only contraceptives
User :   ok.
Doctor :   Risk of getting pregnant
User :   ok.
Doctor :   Ok, these other contraceptives are
Doctor :   Condoms-male & female,
User :   ok
User :   yea.. wanting to have pleasure without using condoms
Doctor :   Female diaphragm's
Doctor :   Spermicide gellies
User :   will having sex once .. lead to pregnant
Doctor :   Intrauterine contraceptive devices
Doctor :   Yes
Doctor :   it can
User :   oh ok
Doctor :   because all it takes is a single sper from a single ejaculate
User :   ok
Doctor :   to fertilize an ovum
User :   ok
User :   condom to what extent may be safe
Doctor :   I shall give you a good option
User :   pls
Doctor :   There is something called calender method
User :   hm..
Doctor :   Have you heard about it?
User :   nope. I haven't
Doctor :   OK, the principle is to have safe sex on calculated days
User :   before periods
User :   or during periods
Doctor :   The ovum lives for 2 days
Doctor :   & the sperm for 1 day
Doctor :   Your wife will ovulate exactly 14days before her periods
User :   ok
User :   so probably in mid of every calendar its safe in having intercourse
Doctor :   So, you can have safe sex from 2days before ovulation to 3 days after ovulation
User :   hmm
Doctor :   Mid of calender is when ovulation occurs
Doctor :   Calender starts at the end of menses
User :   ok..
Doctor :   If you can tell me about how many days cycle your wife gets, then I shall do the calculation of
Doctor :   the days when it is safe for you ll
User :   30days
Doctor :   Is her cycle regular?
User :   yes
Doctor :   Is it always 30 days?
User :   2-5 days here and there
User :   u there
Doctor :   The fertile period according to the calculation method is as follows.
Doctor :   SInce the cycle on an average is 30 days, the fertile period is on the 11th day to the 21st day of her periods.
Doctor :   The first day being the begining of the cycles.
Doctor :   The other days are safe.
User :   so either before 11th and after 22nd day
User :   right..
Doctor :   You can also decide the ovulation periods (the fertile period) using the development of symptoms of ovulation or using the ovulation kit.
User :   any measures to be taken while having sex for the first time
User :   I heard painis experience at both the ends
Doctor :   First or any time sex, I would suggest you to use the barrier methods that is the use of condoms.
User :   not painis but pain is
Doctor :   They are responsible for the preventing pregnancy and the sexually transmitted disease
User :   ok.
Doctor :   Yes, you may experience pains.
Doctor :   But that is not a rule.
User :   what if when u want to becomepregnant
Doctor :   So if either of you do not have pains, that can be normal too.
User :   ok.
User :   on pulling foreskin .. I experience pain in between the 2 glands
Doctor :   If you are planning for conception, then frequent sexual intercourse during the fertile periods and no other contraceptive methods.
Doctor :   You may be having phimosis.
User :   phimosis
Doctor :   These can improve after the first sexual intercourse.
User :   is this the skin that usually get cut on having intervourse
Doctor :   But if they persist inspite or if you develop any problems during sexual intercourse, then you may have to undergo a surgery, circumcision.
User :   aah ok
Doctor :   You are right. That is the skin which would get cut.
Doctor :   But they can some time persist, as explained.
Doctor :   They are incised during the surgery.
Doctor :   Have you followed?
User :   do u recommend to stop intercourse if severe pain is experienced and to see doctor
User :   to get the skin cut
Doctor :   Yes, if either of you develop severe pain and bleeding, then preferably stop.
User :   ok.
Doctor :   It could result in trauma if you continue.
Doctor :   Have you followed?
User :   should be following
User :   just want to know the precautionsto be taken into caonsideration..
Doctor :   Do you have any other query?
User :   before and during sex
Doctor :   May I know who your partner would be?
User :   what
Doctor :   I mean, it is always better to know the HIV status of your partner, if your partner is unknown.
User :   ok..
User :   its with my spouse
Doctor :   That would be fine.
User :   any problem in taking sperm in mouth
Doctor :   Use condoms during all sexual intercourse, except when you are planning for family.
User :   ok
Doctor :   Oral sex do not cause any harm, except when either of you have a sexually transmitted infection.
Doctor :   If there is no history of such infections then there is no harm in oral sex /taking sperm in mouth.
User :   ok.
Doctor :   Do you have any other query?
User :   any problem in having intercourse in large intestine
Doctor :   The same thing applies for any type of sexual intercourse.
User :   ok. one can have with vagina and large intestine
Doctor :   Anal sex has the highest mode of transmission of infection.
Doctor :   SO in the presence of infection, it is to be avoided.
Doctor :   Else there is no harm.
Doctor :   Do you have any other query?
User :   ok
Doctor :   Do you have any other query?
User :   kissing tounge to tounge.. will cause harm in anyway
Doctor :   No, unless if there is infection.
Doctor :   Do you have any other query?
User :   ok.
Doctor :   Do you have any other query?
User :   thats it as of now
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User :   thanks
Doctor :   Thanks for consulting me. Bye for now. Please refer your friends to our service.
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