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Date : 13-Jan-2012
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Doctor :   Hi
Doctor :  
How can I help you?
User :   May I know your name please
Doctor :  
here
User :  
Ok
User :  
I need your help / consultation for improving my sex life
Doctor :   Sure
Doctor :  
I can help you
Doctor :  
Proceed with your query
User :   I am 26 year old female, will be completing 4 years of married life in the moth of december
Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
but as I know or heard of the couples who are newly married that intimacy or appeal I find in myself
Doctor :   Ok
User :  
usually the newly married couples enjoy a lot XXXXXXXXn the frequency is also pretty good for them
Doctor :  
Yes
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But how you differ?
User :  
but I nXXXXXXXXr find that in myself
Doctor :   Ok
User :  
my problem is I tend to sleep
User :  
very rarely means u can say 10% time I want to do the thing
Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
whereas rest all time I do it just for doing
Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
but as I cant fool my hubby he doesnt like this thing
User :  
then he also dont force me
Doctor :   Yes, active participation should be there
User :  
but he is not happy with this things
User :  
hmm
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
Shall I ask a few more details about you?
User :  
but still we are together because of the love on dig betwee us
User :  
but I dont want him to be unhappy
Doctor :  
Well that is the positive side of your relationship
User :  
I want him as well as me to enjoy the things whole heartedly
Doctor :  
Mutually cooperative
User :  
yes you can ask
Doctor :  
May I know your height, weight and occupation?
User :  
My height is 5'4'' weight is 60 (which I reduced from 65) I am working in a MNC as
Doctor :  
Ok thats nice
User :  
stay with my mother in law, father in law, hubby & 3 year old Kiddo
Doctor :  
Good
Doctor :  
Also your husband's age and occupation?
User :  
hey one more thing I want to ask...will all days of my subscription u only will assist me??
Doctor :   Sure

User :  
my Hubby is 32 year old (today is his B'day) he is manager in a Pvt company
Doctor :   Great
Doctor :  
Happy returns from my side too
User :  
if u dont mind can I ask your age?? (Just to know who am I talking to??)
Doctor :   26
User :  
ok Thanks
Doctor :   Fine

User :  
u can proceed
Doctor :  
Now how was your sexual life in the earlier?
Doctor :  
Like just after marriage
User :  
just after marriage we had our first intercourse after 10 days
Doctor :  
OK
User :  
as though we tried we couldn't succeed
Doctor :   Like, what was the difficulty?
User :  
then the other problem was we being in join family we not getting privacy
Doctor :  
Yes that is accepted
User :   difficulty was it was not getting inserted as I was afraid about the pains
User :  
& he was worried abt me
Doctor :   Ok
User :  
but finally on the second last day of the honeymoon it happened
User :  
& we were very happy
Doctor :  
Fine
User :  
then we though once we moved into a new home & will get the privacy the problems will solve
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And later how did it proceed?
User :  
so now we have our own bedroom XXXXXXXXn our Kid also sleeps with his grand parents
Doctor :   Thats a good move
User :   but nothing has improved

Doctor :  
After your first intercourse, how did it proceed?
User :  
the problem is I feel tired & sleepy
User :   then it was almost 1 / 2 in a week
User :  
that too on weekend
Doctor :   Ok
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What was the reason behind?
Doctor :  
Was it you again
User :  
then slowly slowly once a week
Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
being in join family some kind of disputes used to be there which results into small fights
Doctor :   Yes, such things disturb sexual life too
User :  
but the things is now XXXXXXXXrything is streamlined....XXXXXXXXn my Mother in law is also very good with me...no fights
User :  
no tensions
User :  
but still I want to change this only problem
User :  
I want to solve it
Doctor :   And the question is were you also participating actively during sex at that time
Doctor :  
Were you getting satisfied?
User :  
no...may be bcoz I was not getting satisfied as it was not going for longer time
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   My hubby used to say...if no practice then it will result like this only
User :  
hey but I want to tell u one great change
User :  
which happened in between
Doctor :  
Yes
User :  
though it didnt went for long time
User :  
this year in the month of may I started to take a bath before I go to sleep,,,& u know what..in that whole month we had it almost alternate days...
Doctor :   Oh good
User :   u can say 19 times in the whole month

Doctor :  
That is more than the average
Doctor :  
in our country
User :  
but later in becomes difficult for me to continue to tae a bath before go to bed
User :  
hey XXXXXXXXn my hubby was surprised thats whats happening
Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
I get up at 5 or 5:15 AM
User :  
& go to sleep by 11:30
Doctor :   oh
User :  
very busy schedule
Doctor :  
that is a hectic schedule for anyone
User :  
hmm
User :  
I think tired ness is one of the reason may be
Doctor :  
But why so early in the morning?
User :  
as I need to cook & come as my Kid & in laws at home
User :   Doctor :   I have visited and I know the life there
User :  
then u can consider the travelling time
Doctor :  
Yes
Doctor :  
What time do you start and reach?
User :  
if I start by 07:30 I reach ofc by 09:00 or 09:20 depending o traffic
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :   Cant you afford to get up at 6 then?
User :   then I will get late to ofc & result in late leaving from ofc
User :  
will reach late to home
Doctor :  
After getting up at 6, cant u start at 7:30
User :  
weekend I try to take as much rest as I can..since I have saturday & sunday off
User :  
not possible to finish all work in 1:30 time
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
So how about the XXXXXXXXning, like what time you reach home
User :  
ut
User :  
& I want to make it a memorable one
Doctor :  
Yes with privacy you can
User :  
XXXXXXXX I reach by 07:30 - 8
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :  
So now coming back to the topic
Doctor :  
you said that your sexual intercourse ends earlier
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and you are not able to get satisfaction
Doctor :  
May I know the reason it is ending early?
User :  
then all ktchen work, Kid, His study XXXXXXXXrything it comes 11PM
Doctor :  
Ok
User :   my hubby used to release early
Doctor :   Oik
Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
but as per my experience when we did it continuously in may that duratuion got extended
Doctor :  
So there is bit of problem on his side as well
User :  
means that time he could satisfy me
Doctor :  
Yes I can guess the reason
Doctor :  
it is purely psychological
User :  
may be as he said practice makes man perfect
Doctor :  
Yes it does
User :  
now wht to do
Doctor :  
The duration and frequency are directly related
User :  
I just know I want to improve
Doctor :  
So, 1 question
User :  
ok
Doctor :  
Do you sweat more?
Doctor :  
during normal day I mean
User :  
hmmm...yes when I am at home & working
User :  
in ofc no as I am in AC
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :   And has your husband passed any comments on that?
Doctor :  
like odour or anything
Doctor :  
while having sex
Doctor :  
Are you there?
User :   yes I am here

Doctor :  
Ok
User :  
very few times
Doctor :   Ok
Doctor :  
That will have an impact on you
User :  
means not that many times
User :  
ok
Doctor :  
So I suggest you start the habit of taking a bath after returning home
Doctor :   Use an antiperspirant and antideodarant
User :  
usually whats the senario is he tried to turn me on & I says will do on weekend
User :  
ok
User :  
let me try ur suggetion today
Doctor :  
Like in
User :  
ok
User :  
I have it at home
Doctor :  
You can try that
Doctor :  
so that sweating will decrease
User :  
hmm
User :  
ok
User :  
any more suggetions
Doctor :   Yes
User :  
ok
Doctor :  
like try to increase your frequency
Doctor :   And moreover try to reduce your work at home

Doctor :  
but employing a maid
Doctor :  
or getting help from your mother-in-law
User :  
one more thing now because of my behaviour now he is also not that interested so though I try to turn him he thinks that I am just doing it for his sake
Doctor :  
You speak to him frankly about it
User :  
I dont mind in employeing a maid...but these mother in law are so particular abt the work they dont accept them so leave this problem
User :  
so I want to turn him on & make him indulge into the thinks
User :  
things
Doctor :  
Yes but you need to make some adjustment
User :  
hmm
Doctor :  
And utilise your weekend to fullest extent
Doctor :  
Get up early
User :  
can I ask you something if you dont mind
Doctor :   Sorry go to bed early
Doctor :  
I meant to suggest
Doctor :   Sure
Doctor :  
You can ask
User :   as a guy can u tell me...wht a girl should do to turn him ON...means wht should I do so that we can get into the feeling naturally....means how to tell u
Doctor :  
Spend sometime in telling him
Doctor :  
the feeling
Doctor :  
Also you can make a start
User :  
ok I want to have that experience where both of them just forget the world around & get invlove in each othe so much
Doctor :  
And you should also consider his work issues also?
User :   that I do
Doctor :   Yes thats good
Doctor :  
So follow these tips and get back to me
User :   also atleast once I want to experience to do it more than once in a day
Doctor :  
Rather than quantity quality matters
User :   hmm
Doctor :  
So dont jump to such things now
User :  
I agree
Doctor :  
Weekly 2 times is very healthy
Doctor :  
One more thing I want to suggest
User :  
any suggetions for my weight??
User :  
yes pleae
Doctor :  
is that you can start going out with him for a walk if time permits
Doctor :  
or else you can do it atleast in the weekends
Doctor :  
Other that that you can go to movies if you wish or some outing regularly
User :  
he doesnt like to walk..always he take e out on Bike only
Doctor :  
Dress well to impress him
User :  
hmm
User :  
thts a good proint
Doctor :  
Are these things fine?
User :  
hmmm seems lets see how it works
Doctor :  
Well positive mindframe is the first success measure
Doctor :  
So be positive and it will work
Doctor :  
Hold on to see changes gradually
User :  
whats ur Dr. degree if u dont mind...& whts u r specialist into
Doctor :   I am a General Practitioner
Doctor :  
Have done my MBBS
User :  
ok
Doctor :  
I am more into Psycholgical and Sexual health
User :  
pls dont mind
Doctor :  
No problem
Doctor :  
It is good ask such things
Doctor :  
Is there any thing else I can help you with?

User :  
ok will log in tommorrow....but how will I know whether u only will assist me or not?
Doctor :   You can ask the name of the doctor

Doctor :  
And ask the doctor to transfer the chat to me
User :  
I have taken the package for 7 days but can use it only for next two days
Doctor :  
Ok
Doctor :   Getting the problem clarified or XXXXXXXXn solved is the key
User :  
hmmm
Doctor :  
Please fill the feedback form say done when done.
User :   done

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User :   byee

User :  
Take Care
User :  
see u tommorrow
Doctor :  
Sure
User :  
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User :  
from which location u r?
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